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Reality Based Testing

Published on April 22, 2026

I came across a sale to learn a new language for 60% off.

For $239, I could learn a whole new language and have lifetime access to the lessons.

A pretty killer deal if you ask me.

But, I didn’t buy it yet.

I’m reality testing my actual commitment level by creating a space for free language learning first.

It has ads and I assume it isn’t as good as the paid option.

…But, that isn’t the point.

The point is I’ve bought similar courses in the past and never finished them.

Because while it sounded great in my head, I never reality tested it to gauge my actual commitment level.

Before you take the plunge and commit to a full on sprint: create a space. Establish a bit of a pace. Test it against your reality. See if you can make adjustments on the hard days. See if it eventually sticks. Then… double down on your investment.

Cleaning Party

Published on April 21, 2026

I was out at a music show dancing not too long ago when out of the sea of people in front of me, a person with a bucket in one hand danced towards me and pointed to a crushed bottle on the ground.

Confused at first, but quickly putting the pieces together, I picked up the crushed bottle and tossed it into the bucket.

…A giant dance party ensued.

Little did I know, the person carrying the bucket was working for the event and had six others trailing behind them who were trying to encourage participants to clean up and help keep the space clean.

And what an efficient, fun, and aligned strategy that was.

All seven workers would circle and dance and hype up whoever helped clean and turned the space into an immediate mini-party. They even gave me a giant blue cape with the music show logo on it as a gift. And I flew to a bunch of others and continued the vide: I mysteriously pointed towards random crushed bottles on the ground, the bucket, and continued the dance party whenever somebody obliged.

Sure, you could just send workers around with buckets and garbage claws. And you can hope they don’t complain and look miserable while they clean.

Or you can get creative in your approach and find a better way… a more fun way… a more aligned way.

Heard And Seen [Poem]

Published on April 20, 2026

Quick to believe in forever

Slow to enter the here and now

Faith in some day in the future

Fill today with delay, delay, delay

Plenty of time for hopes, dreams, and wishes

Let action get eaten by screens

Want to look back and smile?

Make today feel heard and seen.

Location Associations

Published on April 19, 2026

In the modern age, many people work remotely. And common advice for people who do is to create a space that’s for work only. This way, the brain starts to associate the work with the space and eventually, just stepping into the space can trigger work mode.

In self-defense, the opposite practice is needed. In many cases, self-defense is practiced in martial arts schools, in very specific rooms, that often have a sacred element to them. But, much like how our mind starts to associate work mode with our designated work space, our mind can make a similar association with self-defense mode and our martial arts training space.

And we’ll rarely ever have to use our self-defense skills for real when we’re there… it’s precisely when we’re NOT there that we’ll have to use them. Which means we won’t be mentally primed and may get caught off guard.

If we can do careful visualization, serious role play, or reality based training, however… our mindset will start to expand outside of the martial arts school and into the rest of the world… which is an excellent strategy since that’s where it’ll be needed.

And this isn’t the only example of a skillset that’s required to be used in reality versus a classroom or computer screen… the question I have for you today is… which skill(s) are those for you?

How Would You Describe Dancing?

Published on April 18, 2026

I might say… spontaneous joy being expressed by the body.

…Which isn’t the only way to express spontaneous joy.

But if you want to dance and you don’t… for whatever reason… does the spontaneous joy ever get expressed?

Become The FOMO

Published on April 6, 2026

The secret to not having FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) is to bring all of your presence into the moment you’re already in.

Lean into courage. Find the curiosity. Fill yourself up with everything already around you. Create and emit the energy you find yourself looking elsewhere for. Get others to jump on board. Become the FOMO others think about—not to make them feel bad, but because that thought will guide you forward towards the time you most want to have. You’re only missing out if your mind is elsewhere of your body. Keep the two together and suddenly, your spirit will start to shine unconditionally bright.