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Category: Living Well

On Arriving Quick

Published on April 4, 2026

I went on a 6-hour roadtrip with my mom and grandmother today—neither of whom I get to spend too much time with on a regular basis.

This was not the time to be in a hurry to arrive… or to bring an anxious energy into the space… or to cycle through thoughts in my own head…

This was the time to slow roll… to bring a relaxed energy into the space… to ask interesting questions…

The point of a trip isn’t to quickly get where you’re going and then back (otherwise, why go at all?). The point of the trip is to uniquely experience as much as you can while you’re gone.

And nothing blocks experience like rushing and trying to arrive elsewhere quick.

Ask Me To Walk 45k Steps…

Published on March 31, 2026

…And it’d more than probably be a drag.

…Put me at a music festival with banging dance song after banging dance song after banging dance song and friends who match big dance energy?

…And at the end of a 45k step night, you may just find me wanting more. Like it wasn’t enough. Like all I wanted to do was go back and do the 45k steps all over again.

…Something you’d more than probably not catch me saying if I just walked the 45k steps straight up.

Alignment makes everything exponentially easier.

Somebody’s Gotta Do It

Published on March 28, 2026

While staying at a friend’s house in Florida, I came to find out that his girlfriend is the president of their Home Owners Association (HOA).

I asked what a day in the life of an HOA President looks like and she said, “Listening to a ton of complaints—even when trying to sit by the pool, devoting a ton of extra time to fixing things—and doing all the hiring of others to fix things, and trying to convince people to budget more money towards the Association (that comes out of their pocket) so they all can have a better living space vs just letting everything go.”

I asked her what the incentive was for her to be doing all of this extra work… and she said, “Welp, somebody had to do it. Because the path they were on wasn’t future focused and things were taking a turn for the worse.”

…And she’s not getting paid a dime.

…Just going above and beyond to make their shared living space—one that supports 300+ people—a better place.

…An example we all might be able to learn from.

You’ve Arrived

Published on March 26, 2026

What if being in a hurry was your new reminder to breathe and look around?

What if being in a hurry turned into a trigger that slowed you down?

What if being in a hurry was actually a mentality—a perspective—that robbed you of life?

…Because being in a hurry (100% of the time) means you’re not where you are. You’re future focused—because what’s happening right now isn’t as important as what you’re hurrying to.

And while that may be true some of the time… what isn’t true is that you always (finally) mentally arrive.

The Consequences Of Freedom

Published on March 19, 2026

You’re free to log-in to Facebook—but you’re not free from its algorithmic feed.

You might log-in with the intention of checking in on friends, but what results is a firehose of content that each carefully analyzes your every touch of your finger—down to the pixel—so as to craftfully, cunningly, with an incomprehensible amount of precision… guide you into a rabbit hole… featuring content that keeps you logged in, swiping and scrolling, vegetating and droning for as long as it can manage.

See what we need to realize is that in so many cases in life, we’re free to make whatever choice(s) we want, but we’re not free from the consequences of those choices.

Logging into social media apps is a free choice, but what we get shown is no longer completely up to us.

Hanging out with certain people is a free choice, but what gets done, discussed, and experienced is no longer completely up to us.

Choosing where we spend our time is a free choice, but who we run into, the vibes of the environments, the types of experiences we’re prone to having are no longer completely up to us.

Which is why it’s more important than ever to take control of our free choices and choose to act in ways that minimize the potential downside and maximize the upside.

Rather than log-in to social media apps, maybe we choose to log-in to reading apps instead.

Rather than hang out with toxic types, we make more space for and hang out with healthy types.

Rather than choose to spend our time at bars/clubs, maybe we spend more time at gyms/cafes.

Freedom has consequences… choose wisely.

Warm and Kind and Opinionated Doesn’t Always Mean Friend

Published on March 15, 2026

Inside each of us are two selves engaged in ongoing negotiations about how to spend the available resources of the day.

The One is loud, about the now, and loves quick dopamine hits.

The Other is quiet, long-term oriented, and loves compounding returns from investments.

The One says, “You’re too old,” “You’re too weak,” “You’re too tired,” “You’re too late,” “You’re too busy…”—Let’s hit up TikTok instead.

The Other whispers, “You’ll do what you can,” “You’ll get stronger,” “You’ll give only what energy you have,” “You’ll be happy you went anyway,” “You’ll make time for what’s important—let’s take away from screentime instead.”

And the reason The One is so cunning and conniving is because it never presents as the enemy… it always presents as your friend.

And rather than gear up for battle against a full fledged, sword drawn, lion roaring enemy who’s charging at you from the other side of a battle field… you sit there with this “friend” who’s giving you warm tea and a blanket and whispering “Relax” and “It’s no big deal” and “It’s just this time” and “You’ve already been so good” and “You’ll look silly” and “You’ve got so many other things to do…” and a million other excuses that are oftentimes—quite hard to refute.

This is where WE need to get clever and strategic.

And in the same way we might politely say “Thank you” or smile and nod or rebut back with whispers of our own—and get up, excuse ourself out, and move forward with our life in real life—it’s good to remember that warm and kind and opinionated doesn’t always mean friend.

Finding The Infinite In The .01%

Published on March 5, 2026

There are moments, oh so brief and fleeting, during everyday happenings, that connect us to the infinite.

It’s right at peak extension of our morning stretch and just as we scratch the precise location of a butt itch.

It’s the moment when the temperature of our shower hits just the right degree and just as we exhale calmly from feeling most refreshed.

It’s that first sip of coffee, brewed exactly to our liking, and the moment our nose catches its aroma as we close our eyes and carefully breathe it in.

It’s our hands cupping warm ceramic in frigid air or the feel of cool water moving mouth to throat to stomach on a sweltering hot day.

It’s that moment during a hug when we’re pulled in tighter or the moment during a kiss when you both decide to lean back in.

Rather than rush through these moments in an effort to get more quickly to the next… What if we lingered there instead?

What if instead of taking these moments for granted because they’re less than .01% of our day… we made them something we appreciated with as close to 100% of our attention while we’re there?

Maybe our days wouldn’t feel like such a blur. Maybe the moments wouldn’t all vanish behind the off putting comment, criticism, or some kind of fear.

Maybe what’s happening in the .01% is really the only thing that ever is happening?

…Maybe it’s just about us being there.