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Category: Living Well

Who Should I Think About As I Write?

Published on June 3, 2026

If I think too much about who’s on my email list, I have a really hard time settling on a topic.

Should I write for the parents?

Should I lean more towards business casual or drinking buddy language?

Should I bear in mind the people I’ve met through martial arts or music or social media or education or travel?

But then I come back to my mission statement: I help busy people do inner work.

…And I can focus again. Because I’m not writing for any one person on my list. In fact, I’m not even writing for the entirety of the people on my list.

…I’m writing for me. Because I’m busy. And I need to keep finding ways to do inner work.

Because I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: daily writing that’s inner work based is one of the best things I’ve ever done for my mental health, healing, and personal growth.

And if I can help some of the other busy people out there via the work I’m doing for myself… or help them build a practice that’ll guide them forward in the same way my practice has guided me… then that’s a pretty incredible bonus.

Life Is Unfair?

Published on May 28, 2026

Do you realize that, in an incalculable number of ways, you’re living a life of already answered prayers?

Think about it.

How many times were you terribly sick and prayed for health?

How many times have you feared for your life and saw things through to the other side?

How many times have you prayed for good news and gotten it?

How many times was a deal made where if the universe/higher power delivered “A,” you would offer back, “B”—and the universe delivered?

How many times have you prayed for a person? To heal? To find their way? To like you? And it came true?

…And how many times have we immediately moved on with our lives after an answered prayer… filling the universe only with multiplied additional prayers rather than even an ounce of gratitude?

Maybe one of the reasons we feel like life is unfair, is because for every one answered prayer, we ask for ten additional prayers to be answered… and we quickly forget about all that has already been fulfilled.

…But if you flipped that formula, and responded with 10 times the gratitude for every one answered prayer, maybe life being unfair wouldn’t be so bad after all.

Intentional Space

Published on May 27, 2026

One of the reasons my work office got so cluttered and messy was because there were so many things that didn’t have a “home.”

I would be given beautiful cards, thoughtful gifts, art pieces, timeless pictures, and sentimental trinkets… and I would have to shove them into one of the limited places I had any open space at all.

And having worked in the same martial arts school for 20+ years… you can only imagine the amount of stuff I had crammed around.

One of my major goals this past weekend, when renovating and redesigning my work office was to give everything an intentional space—both for the things I was already given, and the things that would come.

I spent hours and hours going through it all, organizing it, imagining the appropriate space for it, shopping for the right pieces, and building/designing it—with my sister’s help, of course.

And it turned out beautifully. I’m very proud of the space and feel not only lighter from having removed all of the clutter and mess, but more joyful because so much of what was buried in a tiny drawer is now being featured on the walls and has space to breathe.

A bunch of a good thing shoved into a tiny drawer doesn’t do you or anybody else any good. And sometimes, that’s what’s making us feel bad—whether consciously or not. And all we have to do is give all of the amazingly good things we’ve already been given a home where we can see it, feel it, and experience it on a regular basis—rather than just always wishing for more and more.

I Felt Out Of Place

Published on May 24, 2026

I’ve been working out of the same office for almost two decades.

And not once have I given it a full design update.

What I’ve done throughout the years is simply add.

I’ve added more and more art to the walls, shoved more and more files into my one cabinet, pinned more and more pictures to the more and more cork boards that I would buy…

And over the past few months, for the first time in those almost two decades… I felt out of place.

…Like where I was working, my office, was no longer accurately depicting who I was, what I was about, and what I wanted the impression to be.

And so this weekend, I gutted it. And I’m re-designing and re-organizing it from the ground up (with my sister’s help). After the work I put in tomorrow, I’ll have invested upwards of 24 hours into this project.

And you know what, I can’t wait to get back in there and keep working on it. Because what I’m doing isn’t work… what I’m doing is evolving in real time.

…And it’s finally rippling outward from just me and into my workspace in a way it never has.

Bowl-Size

Published on May 21, 2026

Like fish, we typically grow in proportion to the size of our environment.

Put into a bowl, and we’ll grow bowl-size.

Put into the ocean, and we’ll grow ocean-size.

If you find yourself feeling stuck at “bowl-size,” try swimming into bigger environments. Or focus so much on growing yourself that the bowl-size simply is no longer a good fit.

There’s a whole ocean out there. For all of us. In every field and life dimension.

The question is… what size feels Goldilocks right to you?

“How Do You Go Back To Regular Life After This?!”

Published on May 19, 2026

…Is often a question I’ll ask myself after an incredible music show.

But, the answer—as it is for most things in life—is that too much of a good thing can turn even that incredible thing into a bad thing.

If I was to go to music shows multiple times a week or even every weekend—I’d stop appreciating them as much.

It’s an observation I even made last night when listening to that legendary 2-hour set by two of the world’s best DJs: what makes them so great wasn’t just the banger after banger after banger song choice… it was the tension they expertly built throughout the show.

They knew how to build your excitement and anticipation… hold you in that peaked state… leave you levitating and wondering and anxious for what’s next… and then drop the banger of a track that gave you that euphoric release.

…And then they do it again.

But without the build… you don’t get the same feeling because there’s not really a drop.

And that’s what the space in between does for you in life: it allows your excitement, anticipation, and curiosity to build.

So that when you reach that peaked state and are levitating and just on the brink of being able to experience whatever it is in full… you are properly primed for a completely satisfying drop.

Energy Follows Alignment

Published on May 18, 2026

I played 3 hours of intense basketball today.

Afterwards, I was spent.

…Walking to my car even felt like a chore.

And as I was driving home, I remembered I still needed to mow the lawn.

…And it felt like pushing a weighted sled at the gym for 45 minutes after running a half marathon.

But what’s interesting is later that night, I watched a legendary DJ set on YouTube that I’ve been meaning to watch for months.

…And for two hours, I danced in front of my TV without so much as a grimace—in fact, it flew by and left me feeling light as a cloud.

It was an incredible reminder that energy follows alignment. And if you’re fighting with yourself for energy, maybe it isn’t your energy levels so much as it’s your energy inhibitors and drains.

…And worth meditating on is how alignment can help fix both.