Skip to content

Category: Understanding Love

When The Owner Comes Up To Your Table

Published on January 16, 2025

Today, while out at lunch, the owner came up to my table and started a light conversation.

She asked me how the food was… told me a little bit about the dish I ordered and how she made it… and told me to be safe while driving because of heavy snowfall.

It couldn’t have lasted more than 2 minutes and wow… what an impression it made.

What’s more is that before she came to my table, she was chatting it up with another table that had a mom, a dad, and a newborn baby. And while they were chatting I overheard the mom say, “Yeah, it’s her birthday today and we wanted to bring her in to see you! …Can you believe it has already been a year?”

Now, I don’t know if they *actually* know each other outside of the restaurant or not, but I like to think she started a light conversation with them a year-ish ago and they, too, were impressed and kept coming back as a result…

This is really all it takes to make a lasting impression…

A little initiative… A good intention… and a genuine interest…

The rest… surely enough… tends to take care of itself.

On Attracting Amazing People Into Your Life

Published on January 12, 2025

Tonight, I met some of my sister’s favorite people for the first time.

And towards the end of the night, as she was reinforcing to me why she loved them as much as she did—because of how kind, funny, supportive, adventurous, generous, loving, spontaneous, and so forth, they each were—she told me she often wondered how she got so lucky.

And I told her it was simple…

The people she attracted into her life were a reflection of her. It was because she was kind, funny, supportive, adventurous, generous, loving, spontaneous, and so forth that those very same kinds of people were attracted to her. And that it was no coincidence that so many amazing people loved being friends with her.

…Because she put the work in to become amazing herself.

P.s. ICYMI you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week here.

Hate Is A Virus

Published on December 29, 2024

Here’s the thing: with each decision, we’re either contributing to the problem or contributing to the solution.

When dealing with the virus that is hate, we need to remember that not only is it easily transmittable (especially in today’s world) from others to you… but it’s just as easily transmittable from you to others.

See a lot of people think to themselves, I’m only one person… what can I do? And this is the transmittability of the virus speaking. Because if it can infect you, it knows it’ll infect many others.

But if you can take on the role of the white blood cell and stand up to hate… be an example of overflowing love… and let the transmittability of the cure do the speaking… you’re not just protecting yourself from the sickness that is hate… you’re doing it for the countless others who won’t get exposed from you, too.

P.s. Stop the hate.

Reserved. Quiet. Observant.

Published on December 29, 2024

When I’m around people I don’t know and in an environment I’m unfamiliar with, my default setting is to be reserved, quiet, and observant.

And once I recognized this in myself… I recognized there needed to be a conscious and deliberate effort in intentionality if I wanted to be social, outgoing, or take chances on meeting people.

You can’t grow from the problem you haven’t first recognized.

P.s. Love yourself.

Love And Time

Published on December 28, 2024

“How do you know when you’re in love?” She asked.

When the desire for pleasure is gone… And yet… They’re still able to halt time.

The Best Gift You Can Give

Published on December 24, 2024

There are countless gifts being exchanged across the world during this time of the year.

And I’m sure you have many gifts you’ll be exchanging as well.

A question: What gift are you most excited to give?

…And why?

Is it because of how personable it is? How hard it was to find? How much time/energy/effort went into making it/deciding on it?

Ultimately… the gift we’re most excited to give is the one we probably think is going to elicit the biggest emotional response.

Because at the end of the day, what we’re really after when we exchange gifts isn’t an item for another item… what we’re after is an exchange of emotions. Joy for joy. Gratitude for gratitude. Excitement for excitement.

Remember this not only as you’re giving gifts… but as you’re receiving gifts, too.

Sometimes, the best gift you can give has nothing to do with anything you bought… but rather has everything to do with the type of responses you give when you open something someone else bought you.

Clawing Tooth And Nail For Status

Published on November 15, 2024

When most people hear tournament, they think competition… they think going up against others to score some kind of win or victory… they think comparison opportunity.

This past weekend, while hosting a martial arts tournament, I was thoroughly impressed with one of the visiting masters who brought an entirely different kind of energy to the event.

Rather than a, “let’s see how many of their students we can beat…” kind of energy, what he brought was a “let’s show appreciation to those who are helping promote the spread of traditional martial arts…” kind of energy.

And he showed up, not with an intention of taking as many of our trophies as possible, but with official certificates of appreciation that they honored several of our staff with.

…What he brought was honor and dignity to our event. More than was there before.

And in a world where so many people are focused exclusively on social hierarchies and clawing tooth and nail to improve their status… this was exactly the kind of breath of fresh air I—most probably we—needed.

Inner Work Prompt: Rather than focus on how you might be better than others or how they might be worse… how can you bring honor and dignity to those around you instead?