A tall blade of grass Looks down upon A sea of green blades Some bigger Some thinner Some pointed Some flat Some darker Some lighter What a shame That in a sea of green That’s what is seen
I help busy people do inner work.
A tall blade of grass Looks down upon A sea of green blades Some bigger Some thinner Some pointed Some flat Some darker Some lighter What a shame That in a sea of green That’s what is seen
How can you say someone is beautiful If you haven’t yet Peered past the cover Of their book?
What lies between Stranger and friend Is one singular question Asked with the right intent
It’s easy to look at the current state of your life and claim it’s self-made—after the fact and when things fit together nicely.
But, none of us are self-made.
Remember each of the influences who gave you pieces to your life’s puzzle and showed you how they might fit together along the way.
You may have put piece to puzzle; but, you certainly didn’t make every single piece or do all of the thinking alone.
Honor those who helped you piece together your life and pay forward what you’ve pieced together into the lives of others.
Solving massive life puzzles is much easier when you’re not doing it alone.
Before you commit to a serious relationship, check how this person:
Of course everything is great when everything is great.
To really get to know the person you’re talking to, see how everything is when things get challenged.
Because life is challenging more often than it’s not and the last thing you want is to be stuck solving problems with somebody who acts the opposite of how they do when everything is great.
You can be plump in the middle of a crowd and still feel lonely.
Lonely doesn’t have to do with being around people.
It has to do with being around the right people.
How do you find the right people you ask?
When you stop turning left, of course.
No, seriously.
You find yourself in the wrong groups because you’re turning into them. If you’re not connecting with the people on your “left,” go “right.”
In other words, question the choices you’re making. Are the people around you making you feel seen, heard, and connected? Or the opposite? Likewise, do you feel like you can genuinely see, hear, and connect with those around you? Or not so much?
If the vibe is off then it’s time to honor new curiosities; learn new skills; join new clubs; try new challenges; volunteer with new organizations—it’s time to turn “right.”
And if you’re having a hard time figuring out what “right” might look like, then you need to spend more time with yourself.
Because if you aren’t connected with yourself (and your own aptitudes/interests/curiosities), how is anybody else supposed to be able to connect with you?
Step 1: Figure out who you are.
Step 2: Go where people like you go.
Step 3: Introduce yourself to those people.
Step 4: Make friends with those who introduce themselves back.
The solution to loneliness isn’t exotic destinations.
…It’s connection.
And connection happens when you say to the world: “This is who I am.”
Rather than waiting for the world to notice you and, at best, say: “This is who you’re going to be.”
Because how can anyone else connect with you if you aren’t first connected with yourself?