Do our dream people find us… or do we find them?
…Both.
I think the point is to be open to the infinite possibilities of the world and to constantly expose ourselves to others while simultaneously engaging with those who curiously cross our paths—both directly and subtly.
Waiting to be found isn’t a good strategy.
And neither is desperately searching.
Somewhere in the middle though? …I think is where the real magic of connection happens.
When you are feeling lonely, it’s important to remember that there are MANY people around you who feel exactly the same.
In fact, as ironic as it might sound in today’s hyperconnected world, it’s probably more often the case than not that the people around you are feeling lonely more than they’re not.
That in mind, do for others what you secretly crave is done for you:
Think of what it might mean to you to get that invitation… and be the bearer of that gift to somebody else.
P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.
Other people are not here to:
Realize this and suddenly, life becomes a whole lot less frustrating.
P.s. I don’t have any Black Friday sales, but if you see any of these books on sale this weekend, I would definitely recommend getting them. And here’s my full library of quoted books :)
Don’t write to beat other writers. Write to give gifts to readers.
Don’t read to beat other readers. Read to receive gifts from writers.
Don’t create to beat other creators. Create to realize the gifts inside of you.
Don’t share to beat other share-ers. Share to help people on similar paths as you.
Extrinsic rewards have their place… but never lose sight of intrinsic value.
When we compete, we adopt a winner/loser mindset—and sometimes lose sight of the intrinsic beauty of the tasks we’re choosing to do in and of themselves.
When we contribute, we adopt an abundance/ win-win mindset—and get to experience the intrinsic beauty… not just in the tasks… but in the effect they have on the people who you’re no longer looking to as “losers”—but as community/ team players who are helping raise the tide… just like you.
P.s. I asked what the best feeling(s) in the world are. Here are the answers. I hope they bring perspective and joy to your day :)
There isn’t any one place in the world where people’s inner worlds are disproportionately more deep and rich.
Depth and richness is everywhere.
This is true even for the people who you cross paths with in coffee lines, drug stores, and supermarkets.
You don’t have to travel to France, Greece, or Bali for more rich, deep connections.
You just have to be more curious and open to having deep, rich conversations.
P.s. I compiled a list of 101 Thoughtful and Provoking Questions to Ask To Get To Know Someone in case you’re interested.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but, who you surround yourself with is NOT limited to real life.
Once I catch wind of somebody who is doing something I’d like to do, talking about something I’d like to know more about, or is just damn interesting…
I surround my mind with their mind in every way I can.
My reality is: some of the most influential people in my life don’t even know I exist.
P.s. I’ll be hosting a LIVE chat on Twitter today (9/22) at 11am EST. The topic is embracing adversity. I’d love to have you join if you’re free/ interested.
Feeling distant from people?
Like you’re lacking connection?
And don’t know how to initiate a good interaction?
I have a challenge for you.
What you do is simple… in any task(s) you choose… you buy, create, make, collect, gather… more than you need.
This could be groceries, brownies, art, soup, berries, books, solar lights, coffee, tools, cups, candy, gadgets, etc.
And then the challenge is to give away the extra—for free—to whoever you think would appreciate it.
No strings attached. No expectations of return. No gift tallying.
Just a real gift given that comes from a real place in your heart.
Some examples:
Real begets real. And if you want to form more real connections… this is an excellent place to start.
…Who’s in?
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