Category: Thinking Clearly

We’re All Acting All Of The Time

Published on January 25, 2026

We have our family mask, our work mask, our friend mask…

And in most cases each of those masks have several variations based on which family members or work associates or friend groups we’re around.

These masks that get created, however, the ones that we wear, aren’t always fitting to who we want to be or how we ideally want to present.

We let people manipulate our masks… we let criticism and influence steer us away from our own tastes… we sometimes wear a mask for so long that we forget that it’s outdated or that we’ve outgrown it or, worse yet, what it even looks like…!

But once you realize that it’s acting and masks… the beautiful thing is… you can reclaim your power as an actor.

You can choose in this moment that you want to adjust your mask, shed a layer that’s no longer relevant, or add a component that your highest self would have.

Take a few moments today to “lay” your masks down and take a closer look.

Are they each aligned with who you most want to be?

Are there little tweaks that need to be done that you can take care of today?

The ones who wear only one mask are limited.

Be free. Expand your closet. Be anything and everything you want to be when the time calls for it.

Make taking masks off and putting new ones on seamless… smooth… invigorating…

Limiting your spirit to just one is a situation that makes none of our spirits feel free.

“Your Life Expands When Your Nervous System Relaxes”

Published on January 23, 2026

Think about what happens when your nervous system tenses…

Vision narrows; loss of peripheral vision; hyperfixation on tension/fear.
Speaking becomes forced; choppy; we ramble and overuse filler words.
Body language closes off; we look unapproachable; we repel people away.
Thinking gets mudded; invasive thoughts distract focus; anxiety is created from fear.
Coordination short circuits; normal muscular patterns feel heavy/weird; we become clumsy/awkward.

…Maybe not all at one. But for many of us… it’s many of the above things.

When you learn how to relax your nervous system, however… think about what happens…

Vision expands; we regain peripheral vision; we notice opportunities.
Speaking slows; becomes more clear; presents more confidently.
Body language opens; people feel more comfortable approaching and opening up to us.
Thinking clears; keeping a train of thought is easier; creativity arises.
Coordination smoothens out; muscular patters feel light and crisp; we feel grounded.

…Again, maybe not all at one. But for many of us… it’s many of the above things.

Think about the difference in how the former type of person approaches life versus the latter… how they might respond to life situations… how they might handle challenges…

Think about the way the two types might interact with people… how people might interact with them… what kinds of opportunities might come up… or not…

And finally, think about some of your favorite life moments… which type of energy were you trying to embody in those moments… and what type of energy preceded them…

I think you’ll find it to be true for yourself: “Your life expands when your nervous system relaxes.”

Just remember this as you approach all of the upcoming, unavoidable “scary/fearful” moments of your days.

The Gift Of Failing

Published on January 22, 2026

Giving a public presentation today reminded me of the value of failure.

…I didn’t fail presenting publicly today, but I certainly have in the past.

And while the successes build a confidence more and more solid… the failures provide the care.

Nobody wants to feel like they’ve failed, let alone in front of an audience of people, let alone LIVE.

And so what do the memories of those failures make us do as we approach another shot at the same task?

…They make us do our homework, practice our technique, refine our message, align with our spirit, and humbly seek help—or at least they should.

They give us the motivation to do better… to prepare better… to step closer into who we were always meant to be.

And who’s that you ask?

The person who is confident, yes—and can stand up with great posture, speak wholeheartedly, while emanating a sense of empathy, understanding, and calm—but, just as importantly… the person who does so with deep care.

…Because they know deeply the other side of success.

See, both grow in proportion—success and failure—so long as you approach each with the appropriate mindset. So don’t run from failure. Grow from it. Grow with it. Let it guide you to a greater success than you could’ve ever experienced otherwise.

What Moment(s) From Your Day Didn’t Get Enough Time And/Or Space?

Published on January 21, 2026

An excellent daily writing prompt: what moment(s) from my day didn’t get enough time or space? What still needs to be felt, absorbed, or learned from that/those moment(s)? Think:

Missed moments of gratitude. You can’t rush and feel grateful in the same moment. Rushing implies future focus—there’s someplace you gotta be, something you gotta do, someone you gotta see, etc.—and gratitude can only ever be felt in the present. Sometimes people express gratitude to you, or something incredible happens, or a special moment occurs, but you’re in too much of a hurry to really feel it. Replay that moment and let gratitude expand in proportion to the presence you offer.

Missed moments of connection. Maybe you’re rushing and somebody unexpectedly shares something deep, important, or meaningful. And because of your pace, you’re unable to meet them at the same depth. Replay the moment and maybe write an appropriate response or reach back out to continue the conversation. Or maybe it’s a closed loop and was more of a statement than a conversation… Try carefully envisioning the experience and allow your unhurried feelings to emerge in full.

Missed moments of learning. The expression experience is the mother of all teachers is wrong. It’s reflected upon experience that’s the mother of all teachers. We all know somebody who does the same stupid thing over and over and over again… and yet, never learns. Why? It’s not because of a lack of experience… it’s because of a lack of reflection, understanding, and internalization. And when we don’t make space for “reflected upon” in our lives… how are we ever going to learn?

…Try this tonight as you unwind from your day.

Fight For Your Uniqueness

Published on January 18, 2026

You were born unique—you know this.

The world, however, is going to fight to make you interchangeable—it’s better for business.

What’s better for your business is fighting for your uniqueness.

Which, worth mentioning, is usually everything you feel like saying and doing but hesitate on because it’s not what everybody else is doing.

…In this sense of the word: start to perceive hesitation differently.

Use it as a signal to lean in versus back out.

Hesitation to do something that is so completely you is something that deserves that same pause… that same deep breath… that same “dancing-with-the-nerves” mentality that fear elicits right before you step into big, outside-the-comfort-zone moments.

…Because that’s exactly what being unapologetically yourself sometimes feels like!

And just like those moments before you have to give a public presentation, or perform in a “game-on-the-line” situation, or ask out that cute person who gives you butterflies… and you calm yourself down enough to lean in with your most physiologically ready self…

…So, too, should we learn to do that when hesitating on self-expression.

Doing the same as everybody else might feel like the safe bet, but in many ways it’s one of the greatest risks.

Same look, same skills, same résumé isn’t safe in today’s world… it’s easily interchangeable. And more importantly, sacrificing chances to realize more truly who you are is an opportunity you don’t always get back—there’s no second life for do-overs.

So wear those weird clothes. Mix together unconventionally mixed concepts. Write about super niche topics that you feel inexplicably drawn to.

…These may prove to be some of the most important path-changing, energy-recalibrating, tribe-attracting moments of your life.

What Do You See When You Look Outside?

Published on January 18, 2026

At a recent weekly meeting, my boss asked my associates and I what we did first thing that morning.

Two of them said let their dog outside.

He asked them what they saw… they said, in not so few words, pee and poop.

He proceeded to tell us that when he looked outside… for whatever reason that morning… he was completely captivated by the trees… and the way they were swaying… and the beauty of the snow and how it blanketed the early morning neighborhood.

They all probably opened their door to an almost identical snowy scene.

…But couldn’t have seen things more differently.

Doing Inner Work Doesn’t Require A Lake View

Published on January 15, 2026

Most people think inner work needs to be coupled with a very specific kind of setting.

The thing is: a quiet corner is a quiet corner is a quiet corner.

And the corner doesn’t need a lake view.

It doesn’t need to be in the middle of the woods.

It doesn’t need modern furniture, perfect lighting, or inspiring decor.

The thing about inner work that most people seemingly forget is that once you start, the outer world fades away.

All that’s happening with a lake view or a cabin in the woods or whatever is that you’re using it as a means to give yourself permission to begin.

You’re telling yourself a story that inner work can’t begin until x, y, and z criteria are met.

Once you understand this, you can begin telling yourself a new story.

One where the view isn’t the non-negotiable factor… but the intention is.

And the beautiful thing about making your intention the main criteria is that suddenly… the world explodes with dropped map pins on where you can begin.

Which is a much more convenient array to choose from than the one hyper specific, distant into the future, perfect little slice of land, situated by some body of water, built into some cozy little home, where the feng shui is harmonizing and muses linger close by… singular pin.

Carry with you the mindset that a quiet corner is a quiet corner is a quiet corner... and drop your pin to begin wherever you are today… and watch as the outer world fades anyway.