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Category: Thinking Clearly

Uncovering Something Original

Published on March 12, 2026

Figuring out who you are is like writing an essay.

Try to rush it and you’ll end up sounding like a copy-pasted version of somebody else.

Take your time and do the research… kneed your findings with your past experiences and current opinions… wrestle with words… iterate, iterate, iterate… hit publish and present yourself to the world…

And you’ll sound like the unique individual that you are.

Do this again and again and again… and you’ll sound more and more and more like who you were always meant to be.

Not because you weren’t when you rushed… but because you didn’t copy-paste.

…You did the hard work of uncovering something original.

What Keeps Us Young

Published on March 9, 2026

What keeps us young isn’t our looks… it isn’t our physical fitness… it isn’t our knowledge of trends, fads, and what’s cool.

What keeps us young is flexibility. Yes, flexibility in body, but maybe even more so: our flexibility in mind.

Flexibility in mind allows us to adapt our definition of looks as we age; it allows us to redefine what physical fitness means as our bodies change; it allows us to move fluidly, unapologetically, confidently forward into new domains… ones that keep us thinking critically, curiously exploring, and growing in understanding.

Those who obsess over one very specific look, try to freeze their face, skin, and body on that look… and chronically live referencing a past that makes them more and more miserable the further away from that one look they drift.

Flexibility allows us to let go of specific definitions and live in the present. Which allows us to learn how to glow brightly as we are—without any taints of comparison lingering around.

Who we were then and who we are now are not two versions to be compared… but an iterative version that should be cherished and honored.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And if your eyes are tainted with a certain definition of beauty… how are other people’s eyes supposed to see the present version of you? Because believe it or not, our eyes create a filter that all other eyes must pass through. And if that filter is one of self-consciousness, disgust, and doubt… then that’s what they’ll see.

But if it’s one of self-confidence, acceptance, and grace… then how could others not see you in a similar, youthful light?

As Reliable As Cement

Published on March 8, 2026

This life is tough. Ground yourself into something stable.

Something you can push against; something you can count on to be there; something strong enough to help you bear the weight life puts on your shoulders.

Bearing a heavy load is tough enough… add in an unstable floor? A ground that constantly shifts? An energy that’s unpredictable?

And you’ll constantly be topsy turvy tipping and stumbling whatever it is you’re trying to hold.

The weight will fall and make your ground even more unstable… it will crash into other people’s grounds… it might even leave you injured and unable to bear any load until healed.

Before you bear the weight life tries to put on your shoulders… yes, ground yourself into something stable.

If work is unstable, ground yourself in your home life.

If your home life is unstable, ground yourself in your work.

If both are unstable, ground yourself in yourself. And build a sacred practice of meditation, movement, and connection into your day/week that you can count on.

But one thing is for sure: Don’t try to take on more weight if you’re already off balance. Find proper footing on a ground as reliable as cement. Take on life from there.

How Will You Paint Your Day?

Published on March 7, 2026

Words are the colors you use to paint the picture(s) of your mind.

And as much as you might want to step into a Caribbean color palette with sky blues, lush greens, and warm yellows…

Choosing words that paint dark browns, deep reds, and harsh blacks will elicit a much different kind of picture.

Hate is not a path towards love. Love is a path towards love. And the colors of love are the words you should choose to paint with.

Resentment is not a path towards peace. Peace is a path towards peace. And the colors of peace are the words you should choose to paint with.

Anger is not a path towards happiness. Happiness is a path towards happiness. And the colors of happiness are the words you should choose to paint with.

And each day is a blank canvas. Your mind has access to an entire array of colors. Which will you choose to paint your day?

The Not Talked About Enough Benefit Of Small Changes

Published on March 1, 2026

Yes, small changes done over an extended period of time add up to big change.

But, more importantly, small promises made and kept to ourself—which is what small changes done over an extended period of time is—adds up to big self-trust change.

Added up enough and suddenly our word isn’t as flimsy as sand… it’s solid as rock.

We do what we say we’re going to do because we’ve made THAT the habit. More powerful than any giant, one-off change we try to make that’s followed by countless promises made and broken.

Living Just A Little More Balanced

Published on February 28, 2026

Routine is good for building habits. For aligning with momentum. For compounding growth.

Change is good for building richness. For exploring new paths. For resiliency training.

Sure, go to work. But have you ever tried to build a side-hustle?

Sure, workout every morning. But have you ever tried a martial arts class?

Sure, have family dinners. But have you ever tried ordering food from a different city (yes, you can do that)?

Sure, have date night. But have you ever made a random night into a date?

Sure, have travel plans. But have you ever just called a friend and taken them on a spontaneous hike?

If your life is feeling too monotonous or boring… it’s because it probably is! Add in some spice and give yourself something to look forward to, ponder over, or get challenged with.

And if your life is feeling too crazy or unhinged… it’s because it probably is! Ground yourself into ritualistic practices that you can look forward to every day, without fail, that can be done even on your busiest days.

Life is best lived in balance. And getting this even just a little more right can make things feel a lotta bit more better.

Head vs. Heart? …Or Is There A Better Way?

Published on February 22, 2026

Life lived through the head leads to a more gray, tamed, calculated existence.

Life lived through the heart leads to a more saturated, wild, spontaneous existence.

By default, many of us live predominantly through one or the other.

The magic of inner work is that rather than living primarily through just one of those places… we can re-route that energy and filter it through the other center before acting on it in reality.

This gives our judgment the balance it needs to guide us forward in a more holistic and complete way.

If we let our head guide us through relationships, for example, the above words is the kind of relationship we’ll get: gray, tame, calculated.

If we let our heart guide us through work… we might spontaneously quit our job, commit to something wild, and live a life saturated with polarizing emotions—on the street.

But when we filter our head through the heart in relationships, we get something that’s not only sensical… but passionate.

And when we filter our heart through our head… we get something that’s not only exciting… but practical.

Without space and time for inner work, energy and insight shoot directly from our head or heart and is used to make raw decisions that often end up feeling incomplete, lopsided, or even regretful.

Slowing down and redirecting that energy through the filters of the other center gives us the balanced perspective we need to make complete decisions that often end up feeling more whole and rewarding as life unfolds.