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Category: Living Well

You’ve Arrived

What if being in a hurry was your new reminder to breathe and look around?

What if being in a hurry turned into a trigger that slowed you down?

What if being in a hurry was actually a mentality—a perspective—that robbed you of life?

…Because being in a hurry (100% of the time) means you’re not where you are. You’re future focused—because what’s happening right now isn’t as important as what you’re hurrying to.

And while that may be true some of the time… what isn’t true is that you always (finally) mentally arrive.

The Consequences Of Freedom

You’re free to log-in to Facebook—but you’re not free from its algorithmic feed.

You might log-in with the intention of checking in on friends, but what results is a firehose of content that each carefully analyzes your every touch of your finger—down to the pixel—so as to craftfully, cunningly, with an incomprehensible amount of precision… guide you into a rabbit hole… featuring content that keeps you logged in, swiping and scrolling, vegetating and droning for as long as it can manage.

See what we need to realize is that in so many cases in life, we’re free to make whatever choice(s) we want, but we’re not free from the consequences of those choices.

Logging into social media apps is a free choice, but what we get shown is no longer completely up to us.

Hanging out with certain people is a free choice, but what gets done, discussed, and experienced is no longer completely up to us.

Choosing where we spend our time is a free choice, but who we run into, the vibes of the environments, the types of experiences we’re prone to having are no longer completely up to us.

Which is why it’s more important than ever to take control of our free choices and choose to act in ways that minimize the potential downside and maximize the upside.

Rather than log-in to social media apps, maybe we choose to log-in to reading apps instead.

Rather than hang out with toxic types, we make more space for and hang out with healthy types.

Rather than choose to spend our time at bars/clubs, maybe we spend more time at gyms/cafes.

Freedom has consequences… choose wisely.

Warm and Kind and Opinionated Doesn’t Always Mean Friend

Inside each of us are two selves engaged in ongoing negotiations about how to spend the available resources of the day.

The One is loud, about the now, and loves quick dopamine hits.

The Other is quiet, long-term oriented, and loves compounding returns from investments.

The One says, “You’re too old,” “You’re too weak,” “You’re too tired,” “You’re too late,” “You’re too busy…”—Let’s hit up TikTok instead.

The Other whispers, “You’ll do what you can,” “You’ll get stronger,” “You’ll give only what energy you have,” “You’ll be happy you went anyway,” “You’ll make time for what’s important—let’s take away from screentime instead.”

And the reason The One is so cunning and conniving is because it never presents as the enemy… it always presents as your friend.

And rather than gear up for battle against a full fledged, sword drawn, lion roaring enemy who’s charging at you from the other side of a battle field… you sit there with this “friend” who’s giving you warm tea and a blanket and whispering “Relax” and “It’s no big deal” and “It’s just this time” and “You’ve already been so good” and “You’ll look silly” and “You’ve got so many other things to do…” and a million other excuses that are oftentimes—quite hard to refute.

This is where WE need to get clever and strategic.

And in the same way we might politely say “Thank you” or smile and nod or rebut back with whispers of our own—and get up, excuse ourself out, and move forward with our life in real life—it’s good to remember that warm and kind and opinionated doesn’t always mean friend.

Finding The Infinite In The .01%

There are moments, oh so brief and fleeting, during everyday happenings, that connect us to the infinite.

It’s right at peak extension of our morning stretch and just as we scratch the precise location of a butt itch.

It’s the moment when the temperature of our shower hits just the right degree and just as we exhale calmly from feeling most refreshed.

It’s that first sip of coffee, brewed exactly to our liking, and the moment our nose catches its aroma as we close our eyes and carefully breathe it in.

It’s our hands cupping warm ceramic in frigid air or the feel of cool water moving mouth to throat to stomach on a sweltering hot day.

It’s that moment during a hug when we’re pulled in tighter or the moment during a kiss when you both decide to lean back in.

Rather than rush through these moments in an effort to get more quickly to the next… What if we lingered there instead?

What if instead of taking these moments for granted because they’re less than .01% of our day… we made them something we appreciated with as close to 100% of our attention while we’re there?

Maybe our days wouldn’t feel like such a blur. Maybe the moments wouldn’t all vanish behind the off putting comment, criticism, or some kind of fear.

Maybe what’s happening in the .01% is really the only thing that ever is happening?

…Maybe it’s just about us being there.

Pursuit Of Happiness Or Happiness Of Pursuit?

Sitting around, knowing you’re entitled to the pursuit of happiness isn’t going to do much for you.

But understand that there is a real happiness that comes from pursuit.

When your eyes and mind are fixed on a goal and you’re problem solving, critically thinking, collaborating, exploring, trial-and-error-ing, iterating, building, growing…

You unlock a type of whole being happiness… one that isn’t in vain like a temporary pleasure… but one that activates almost every part of you—mind, body, spirit—and renews itself again and again and again…

Just don’t get so caught up in pursuit that you never give yourself any time to feel the happiness that’s present at each step along the way.

The View At The Top

To understand 10,000 things… understand one really well.

There are 10,000 ways to the summit of a mountain… yet they all converge to one singular point.

Which path you choose to take isn’t as important as having chosen a path.

There will be challenges, adversities, confusion, problem solving, victories, scenic points, and more on each.

Each path will have at least 10,000 things to teach you.

If you always give up too soon, however, and climb back down, change your mind, or double back… You’ll never get past even the first 10 lessons of the mountain.

And you’ll end up repeating the same lessons at the beginning of each different path over and over and over again.

This isn’t to say you should never switch paths. Some paths will certainly be more wise and more aligned to take than others.

It’s simply to say, the path isn’t always “clearer” on the other side. At some point you have to fully commit. Give it a full send. Utilize the resources at your disposal in their entirety.

The view at the top is the view at the top is the view at the top.

Balancing On The Edge Of A Razor

There’s an infinitely small sliver that’s smack in between past and future.

And it’s on the edge of that razor that one of life’s great paradoxes is found… eternity.

Because eternity isn’t really about time times infinity… it’s about bringing infinity into the span of a single moment of time—the vastness of it all, balanced on the smallest of lines.

See you never really touch the past—yet it expands infinitely behind us…

And you never really touch the future—yet it expands infinitely in front of us… both as vast as the universe itself.

…But here? Right on this tiniest of slivers that we stand on in-between these two infinitely expanding timelines?

This is where eternity lies. In the constantly renewing string of nows… again and again and again… the only place where infinitely expanding timelines don’t survive.

The trick is to keep balanced on the sliver. Because slipping into the depths of the past and falling forward into a bed of daydreams of the future is impossible to avoid altogether.

But those who can learn to balance on the sliver more often… get more.

More fully received experiences. More fully present moments. More tastes of eternity…