Category: Living Well

Get One Law Really And Completely Right

Published on February 8, 2026

Your self-declared boundaries are only as good as they are enforced.

Which is why it’s good strategy to only declare boundaries that you’re going to enforce completely. Not partially and only when you feel like it… but in an all-of-the-time kind of way.

Because the problem with being partial or mood-dependent is that the same energy seeps into other boundary areas, too. Your being soft with your intermittent fasting boundary, causes you to become soft with your exercise regiment, which trickles into being soft about your cheat days, etc.

…But, that’s also the opportunity.

Because if you can get one boundary completely correct… your other boundaries will start to absorb the same kind of energy too.

You resolve on an intermittent fasting window that’s practical and aligned with your lifestyle; this makes you feel like the kind of person who does what they say and makes you want to show up to your workouts when you say you will; which makes you more likely to stick to your cheat day(s), etc.

It’s a reminder to 1) treat your word as law, 2) be mindful and practical with what words you choose to say as law, and 3) start by getting just one law right—like really and completely right. Use the energy from that to build your others from there.

Distance From Truth

Published on February 5, 2026

Osho says that misery is nothing but distance from truth.

Think about the proximity of truth in some of the best/worst relationships you’ve ever known. The relationships riddled with lies were probably the most miserable. And I’m not even just talking about lies with your partner… I’m including lies you’ve told yourself… about who you are, what you want, and how you’re going to show up in the relationship to make it work. And I’m sure the inverse is true as well. Lies move pain (misery) into the future—truth moves pain (misery) into the past.

Think, too, about some of the best/worst job or career paths you’ve ever pursued. The work that was most aligned with the truth of your personality/spirit, was the work you undoubtedly most enjoyed. And the work that felt like a direct contradiction I’m sure caused the most misery. But, again, we can’t be true to our work until we’re true to ourselves. We need to do personality tests, build skills, join clubs, follow our innate curiosities, experiment/side-hustle, and, of course, do inner work to reveal our truth which we can then align with work.

And even just think about some of the best/worse moments in your life… when you were crossing items off your bucket list—doing things that truly fulfill you. Or when you were forced to do something you really didn’t want to do or hated every second of… that was so against your inner truth…

Once you understand this, moving towards truth can become a mantra of sorts that’ll guide you in just about every dimension in life. Once you uncover, of course, what your truth is.

Is It Possible To Experience An Extraordinary Moment That Isn’t Self-Created?

Published on February 1, 2026

In other words, can we experience something extraordinary without any active involvement or effort on our end?

I’m not sure we can.

In fact, when I list some of the most extraordinary moments I’ve experienced in my life, they’re all moments I was very much involved with facilitating. Things like:

Skydiving (researched, booked, paid for, attended, trained, got on the plane, stepped out, etc.)
Travel/Cultural Experiences (researched, booked, paid for, packed for, traveled to, noticed, absorbed, etc.)
Milestone Moments (graduations, big purchases, martial arts ranks obtained, etc.—all worked incredibly hard for)
Deep Connection Moments (heart-to-heart conversations, intimate energy exchanges, the depth that comes from sharing the same long-term path, etc.)
Flow State Moments (when immersed in an aligned game/activity, when dancing/celebrating without self-consciousness, when training/being challenged appropriately, etc).
Indomitable Spirit Moments (when being pushed to my limits physically, mentally, or emotionally).

I’m not sure we can just passively sit around, wait, and get hit by an extraordinary life moment that’ll make it onto our life’s highlight reel.

Sure there’s luck, serendipity, and happenstance. But not without our active involvement in some way, shape, or form. In fact, my experience has been that the more I do of the latter, the more I tend to get of the former.

Which is worth reflecting on… does this ring true for you? What are some of your life’s most extraordinary moments? What moments are you actively building to be soon experienced in the next week? Month? Year? Decade? What extraordinary life moments are on your bucket list that you can start actively building for today?

Recognizing Moments Of Reward As They’re Happening

Published on January 30, 2026

Every afternoon, between 2-3pm, I:

Put on noise-cancelling headphones
Sit quietly into my posture-correcting chair
Sip on a scorching cup of black coffee
Read, re-read, think, re-think, stare at blank pages…
And write

And it’s one of my favorite hours of my day.

Not because of what gets done… but because of how much reward comes from the moments themselves within the hour.

I feel this way about my time spent teaching, practicing martial arts, playing basketball, dancing at music shows, conversing with my favorite people…

These are the things we should be packing our days with—the things we don’t want to end.

I dread the day when I won’t be able to do even one of the above mentioned activities… because this is how I’m most enjoying spending my life’s time.

And today’s reminder is simple: don’t get so caught up in trying to finish, trying to be done, in being “productive”, in being “efficient”, or in getting to whatever is next that you forget to enjoy the reward that comes from doing your favorite things right here in the now.

Take More Side Quests

Published on January 28, 2026

Yes, you’re on a mission. Yes, you have an itinerary. Yes, you’re on a timeline.

But… why be so rigid?

A side quest implies a following of curiosity… a swapping of itinerary for serendipity… an exchange of hitting future benchmarks for surrendering to what’s immediately present.

Urges to side quest nudge at you all of the time. But most likely, you’re too busy trying to be productive…. Or too distracted with external stimuli… or too brainwashed into following an exact path perfectly… that you miss them… or dismiss them… or even knowingly kiss them goodbye.

But what’s so important to remember is that side questing is an urge that’s usually sent directly from the soul.

It’s hard to explain but feeling called to start a little side-hustle or go chat to that other group of people or detour down a different life path… is a feeling worth honoring… and at the very least… contemplating.

Because just like it’s true that our gut usually tells us something is wrong before our brain knows why… so, too, will our gut tell us that there’s something right about a decision before our brain knows why.

You just have to learn to listen and muster up some courage to say yes.

After all, why be in such a hurry to finish your life mission in the first place?

Something To Remember While Building An Audience

Published on January 27, 2026

Yes… it’s for them. But more importantly, it’s for you.

If you sacrifice your art, ideas, direction, excitement, curiosity, and truth… because you think it needs to look, feel, act, behave, present to an audience in a certain way… then you’ve lost.

Period. Point blank.

And you’ll soon feel lost. And as a result you’ll eventually lose them anyway.

The thing about audiences is that they should evolve with you.

As you continue to share new ideas, pivot directions, change excitements, explore fresh curiosities, and discuss alternate truths… some people will leave. But more importantly, new people will arrive.

…Just as past versions of you will be shed as new skins/identities will grow.

This is a natural part of the self-evolution process. And it should be embraced equally as a part of the audience-evolution process.

This is how you win.

Because every day is aligned and becoming more and more aligned both within and without.

And after a decade of this? How could you not win?

P.s. Struggling with creativity? Try getting more bored.

Mindset Retirement Account

Published on January 20, 2026

People get the mindset they deserve through the actions they take in life.

Not from intentions…
Not from hopes or wishes…
…But from actions.

It’s hard to be optimistic when you’re constantly engaging with pessimists…
Or gritty when you always talk yourself out of doing hard things…
Or inspiring when you only ever do the bare minimum…

And that’s one of the frustratingly beautiful things about this whole process: action is the great equalizer—you can’t cheat it.

But what you can do is use those intentions, hopes, and wishes as fuel and get your butt in gear and prove you deserve that better mindset. Think:

…Becoming suddenly unavailable for the pessimist gatherings, both in-person and online, and finding a new tribe to start engaging with—one that defaults to more optimistic, healthy, exciting ways of thinking.

…Doing something hard in a large-scale way. Like doing ten minutes of exercise or meditation every day for a year. Running a half-marathon right now and then doing nothing the rest of the year won’t cut it. Large-scale smaller actions is the way to go.

…Creating and building something quietly. Like launching a side-hustle… Taking a skill-building course… signing-up for a new hobby or craft… and not making a big deal out of it publicly. Make it a big deal inwardly and talk about everything you learned after months of progress.

Incredible minds aren’t given… they’re earned.

…And every action you take is an investment into your Mindset Retirement Account.

Earn that mindset the same way you earn your retirement.

Make a deposit today.

P.s. Do you leave bread on the hook?