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Category: Feeling Fulfilled

What’s Missing?

Outside of material items, what are you missing from your life?

Take a minute to really think about it.

…What are you missing?

Now… are you missing it because others aren’t giving it to you or because you aren’t giving it to yourself?

In most cases, what we feel like we’re missing has nothing to do with other people.


P.s. In case you missed it, here’s the replay of the LIVE chat I hosted today on Twitter about Embracing Adversity. My co-host had an incredible story and there were a ton of gems shared. Start at the 5 minute mark.

The Life Of Your Dreams

You should wait for someone else to create the life of your dreams for you.

…Ridiculous.

Yet, I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss it as being a belief you don’t—in some way—hold.

  • Are you waiting for your parents to give you their permission or approval?
  • Are you waiting for your boss to give you that raise and those benefits?
  • Are you waiting for some arbitrary opportunity to present itself that’ll sweep you off your feet, take you across the globe, and pay you for breathing?

…Or do you already know what the life of your dreams looks like and are you already building towards that vision each day?

Because if you’re not… how do you think the life of your dreams is going to be realized?

Are you absolutely sure you’re not waiting for someone else to create circumstances that’ll lead to the life of your dreams?

Because if you are… reality check: you will only ever live the life you create for yourself.


P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

Renewing Less

A desire for more isn’t usually satisfied with more. It forever renews.

A desire for less, however, can be satisfied.

Eventually, all that will be left is what’s most useful, important, and necessary.

THIS is the desire that should be forever renewed.

Content vs. Complacent (Round 2)

Complacency is given.

Content is earned.

Complacency is sitting on the couch.

Content is sitting on the couch after a workout.

Complacency is eating crappy foods.

Content is eating crappy foods on your cheat day after an entire week of clean eating.

Complacency is binging watching TV.

Content is binge watching TV after a week of reading, writing, meditating, and contributing.

Complacency is what happens when we follow our lazy inclinations and accept regression.

Content is what happens when we follow our curiosities and challenge ourselves to grow.

Both complacency and contentment represent a sort of acceptance.

The major difference, that’s imperative to understand, is the trajectory of where you’re heading from that state of acceptance.

The trajectory of complacency is an increasingly downward slope towards atrophy, dullness, and discontentment.

And the trajectory of contentment is an increasingly upward slope towards strength, sharpness, and joy.

Don’t get it twisted.


Click here to read Content vs. Complacent (Round 1)

100x Your Gratitude

Gratitude is usually about appreciating all that we have.

What if, to take gratitude further, we appreciated all that we didn’t have, too?

Things like:

  • Sicknesses/diseases/disorders
  • Greed/envy/wrath
  • War/crime/hate

This exercise will 100x your gratitude list at least.

Stand The Heat

I woke up this morning with regret.

I wanted to run the Buffalo Half Marathon, but decided to skip it at the last minute.

When I saw the newsreels of 5,000+ people running (and finishing before I even woke up), I felt it in my gut that I made the wrong choice.

My comfort zone won the battle.

But, the war wasn’t over.

I decided I’d run my own half marathon. Right in my neighborhood. And that’s what I did.

The first half of the run was relatively smooth and uneventful. The second half was sheer pain.

My knees, ankles, hip flexors, and achilles tendons would shoot pain up my leg after every—single—freaking—step. And I wanted to stop after every—single—one—of—those—freaking—steps. But, I didn’t.

My mantras were:

  • Mind calm—body calm.
  • Pace, posture, breathing.
  • Pain now—no regrets later.
  • You’ve done this before—you can do it again.
  • I know my finish line (13.1) and this ain’t it (until it was).

Which I would repeat throughout the run to remind me that the mind will always give up before the body.

Why do we sometimes put ourselves through hell?

So we can learn how to stand (and keep moving forward through) the heat.

Also so when things are heavenly, we can truly appreciate them.

I tell you: water never tastes as good; calories never satisfy as well; and relaxing never feels as rewarding—as when you finish putting yourself through an intense challenge.

I wouldn’t do this everyday—but, it’s good to do something like this on occasion.

Keep your mind sharp. Cultivate gratitude. Expand your limits.

And live with no regrets.

Who Cares?

Nobody should care more about your life than you.

Because nobody can ever fully understand your life—and all that it entails—more than you.

So what happens when you care more about what others think than what you think yourself?

  • It means you’ve outsourced the weight of your care to them.
  • It means you’ll prioritize how you act in ways that satisfies their cares over your own.
  • It means you think their care is more aligned with your wants, needs, desires than your own.

And one of the reasons we care so much about what other people think is because we want to fit in and gain their acceptance.

But, what we have to realize is that if we don’t act in ways that is optimally aligned with our deepest wants, needs, and desires—we become irritable, frustrated, and confused.

Because that’s how being out of alignment feels.

The ironic truth is that the path towards acceptance with others is the path that leads towards acceptance of self first.

Because when we are in alignment with our deepest wants, needs, and desires—we become joyful, unbothered, and confident. And THAT is what attracts the people of your tribe who bring with them fitting in and acceptance.

Fulfillment isn’t something that can ever be outsourced.

No matter how well intentioned and good-willed the other people in your life might be.

…It can only ever be sourced from within.