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Two Life Goals I Hadn’t Heard Before

Published on April 26, 2026

I got to train with a Muy Thai Master this weekend.

And at the end of our three hour session, he started speaking about health and wellness and how he wants to live to be a centenarian.

…But not if that meant having a low quality of life where he’s bedridden, lonely, and miserable.

His two very distinct and unique goals he set for himself—that he has attached to this goal of becoming a centenarian are: (1) That he’s able to bend over and pick up his grandkids and (2) That he’s able to walk independently on uneven surfaces.

And so he’s reverse engineering his lifestyle to prepare him for those two goals as he gets older. Which includes a wide array of thoughtful and deliberate strategies that he’s integrated into his lifestyle as protocols that he follows religously.

…And I just couldn’t help but think how refreshing those goals were in a sea of wished for yachts and added zeros.

A Beautiful Quilting Story from Imani Perry

Published on April 25, 2026

I had the distinct privilege of listening to a live presentation from Imani Perry last night.

And one of the stories she shared stuck with me.

Her grandmother used to gather with friends to quilt.

Each woman would start at a different point of a single quilt, however, and work together until the one was completed.

When it was, they would give it to the woman who needed it the most. Maybe because one just gave birth or another was struggling with bills or whatever.

And I love this idea because it does so much more than make and gift a quilt to a woman who needs it… it brings people together for a common cause (purpose), it acts as a means for conversation (connection), and brings a healing element into the occasion because each woman gets to share her struggles, her challenges, her adversities… and presumably create an invaluable opportunity for everybody else to relate and reciprocate in deeply fulfilling way(s).

…How beautiful.

Is there something like this you could create in your life?

Don’t Hoard Your Fruit

Published on April 23, 2026

What are you working so hard for?

…Is it for your family? Is it for fancy cars and clothes? Is it for travel and entertainment?

Here’s the thing: once you answer this question honestly… it’s important to recognize the “ends” even while you’re in the midst of your “means.”

In other words, if you’re working so hard for your family, then recognize the moments you have with them—when you’re not working—for what they are: the fruits of your labor.

And the same is true when you’re traveling or relaxing or making an exciting purchase… recognize it as the fruit. Don’t let “labor” contaminate its taste. Savor the bites along the way.

And keep a healthy regiment of enjoying your fruit regularly.

Fruit goes bad when it’s left unattended for too long. And eating a mountain of fruit later in life isn’t nearly as good as enjoying your fruit each day along the way.

Reality Based Testing

Published on April 22, 2026

I came across a sale to learn a new language for 60% off.

For $239, I could learn a whole new language and have lifetime access to the lessons.

A pretty killer deal if you ask me.

But, I didn’t buy it yet.

I’m reality testing my actual commitment level by creating a space for free language learning first.

It has ads and I assume it isn’t as good as the paid option.

…But, that isn’t the point.

The point is I’ve bought similar courses in the past and never finished them.

Because while it sounded great in my head, I never reality tested it to gauge my actual commitment level.

Before you take the plunge and commit to a full on sprint: create a space. Establish a bit of a pace. Test it against your reality. See if you can make adjustments on the hard days. See if it eventually sticks. Then… double down on your investment.

Cleaning Party

Published on April 21, 2026

I was out at a music show dancing not too long ago when out of the sea of people in front of me, a person with a bucket in one hand danced towards me and pointed to a crushed bottle on the ground.

Confused at first, but quickly putting the pieces together, I picked up the crushed bottle and tossed it into the bucket.

…A giant dance party ensued.

Little did I know, the person carrying the bucket was working for the event and had six others trailing behind them who were trying to encourage participants to clean up and help keep the space clean.

And what an efficient, fun, and aligned strategy that was.

All seven workers would circle and dance and hype up whoever helped clean and turned the space into an immediate mini-party. They even gave me a giant blue cape with the music show logo on it as a gift. And I flew to a bunch of others and continued the vide: I mysteriously pointed towards random crushed bottles on the ground, the bucket, and continued the dance party whenever somebody obliged.

Sure, you could just send workers around with buckets and garbage claws. And you can hope they don’t complain and look miserable while they clean.

Or you can get creative in your approach and find a better way… a more fun way… a more aligned way.

Building A “Perfect” World

Published on April 20, 2026

Imagine being born a prince or a princess.

And growing up with parents who wanted to make your life perfect.

Imagine what that might look like… imagine what essentially unlimited resources (being king and queen) could do… imagine what they might do to make sure you never knew a moment of suffering and had every need and desire met…

Imagine them building up a wall around your castle so that you never saw suffering or met people of different classes… imagine indulging in the best foods daily… receiving every gift you even slightly wanted… having servants cater to your every need and demand…

…Imagine what that might teach you about the world.

I’ll tell you what it’ll teach you: not much.

Not only is the above the story of Buddha… but it’s the story countless parents play in their head of what they want for their children—whom are the most precious things in the world to them.

…And protecting them, caring for them, and creating a “perfect” little world for them to live in is an instinctual part of a parent’s nature.

But the more the world skews towards “perfect”—in the sense of every desire being met and no suffering—the less it actually teaches us about the world, isn’t it?

Because life is imperfect. The world is imperfect. Humans are imperfect.

Suffering is everywhere. Needs aren’t something given—they’re earned. Desires aren’t meant to always be fulfilled.

THAT is the nature of things.

And the more you intermingle with the “imperfect” world… the more flawed humans you interact with… the more suffering you see through to the other side…

The more you’ll learn about life for real.

Location Associations

Published on April 19, 2026

In the modern age, many people work remotely. And common advice for people who do is to create a space that’s for work only. This way, the brain starts to associate the work with the space and eventually, just stepping into the space can trigger work mode.

In self-defense, the opposite practice is needed. In many cases, self-defense is practiced in martial arts schools, in very specific rooms, that often have a sacred element to them. But, much like how our mind starts to associate work mode with our designated work space, our mind can make a similar association with self-defense mode and our martial arts training space.

And we’ll rarely ever have to use our self-defense skills for real when we’re there… it’s precisely when we’re NOT there that we’ll have to use them. Which means we won’t be mentally primed and may get caught off guard.

If we can do careful visualization, serious role play, or reality based training, however… our mindset will start to expand outside of the martial arts school and into the rest of the world… which is an excellent strategy since that’s where it’ll be needed.

And this isn’t the only example of a skillset that’s required to be used in reality versus a classroom or computer screen… the question I have for you today is… which skill(s) are those for you?