Various thoughts consume various amounts of mental energy.
Deep, intense, painful thoughts consume a lot.
Superficial, light, fleeting thoughts consume a little.
If you don’t deal with the gas-guzzling thoughts, you’ll be left feeling constantly exhausted.
And, maybe better put, if you constantly feel exhausted, maybe it’s precisely because you haven’t dealt with the gas-guzzling thoughts.
Emotionally charged energy is amongst the most powerful sources of energy for a human there is.
Think about the energy of a mom when she’s protecting her child’s life, or the lover after they’ve experienced heartbreak, or even a friend when they see a ref make a bad call during a sports game.
It’s during some of our most emotional moments when we are filled with some of our most potent, raw sources of energy.
What matters isn’t where it comes from—whether from perceptively positive or negative emotions—but how we choose to channel and express it.
Choose a constructive outlet and it can fuel the erection of an entire city.
Choose a destructive outlet and it can level the likes of an entire city.
The worst thing you can do is give it no outlet.
For energy left to pressurize without any source of release has but one, ultimate fate: explosion.
And what a tragedy for destruction to come from the energy that could have created so much for so many.
This post became the afterword for: A Short Story About Frida Kahlo And The Unexpected Gifts Pain Can Provide [Excerpt]
Don’t fake being okay.
It’s okay to not be okay.
All of your feelings are valid.
You may screw up, but you’re not a screw up.
Asking for help isn’t quitting, it’s a sign of determination.
Expressing your feelings isn’t weakening—it’s empowering.
You deserve to get help, seek support, take days off, and get better.
Comparison is a killer—do the best you can with what you have, where you are.
You are more than your anxious thoughts, your past trauma, your mistakes, your flaws and your mental illness.
Cut yourself some slack. Don’t rush the process of healing. It’s okay to have off, unproductive, emotional days. It’s okay to rest.
You are not alone and you don’t have to fight your battles alone. There are people, just like you, who are seeking connection and support.
Always choose love and kindness—for others and especially for yourself.
My aunt on a grumpy hotel employee:
“Maybe he was just having a bad day. Maybe he had to poop and he couldn’t. You just don’t know.”
My new life philosophy for grumpy people.
All pain is real.
Because pain is subjective and is only really experienced by the experiencer.
This is why no one can or should tell you how to feel about your pain.
Only you can be the judge of that.
That said, the intensity of your pain is also only yours to manage.
So, here’s one handy trick that can help deplete pain of its power: stop trying to prove how badly you’ve been hurt.
You have nothing to prove.
And even your best attempts to prove your pain only end up intensifying it.
Better would be to treat pain like the signal it is and respond to that signal deliberately and with compassion.
Much better than catastrophizing it just so that people might believe you that it’s there.
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If I wanted to balance a long stick on just one finger, I would use trial and error.
I would guess and place my finger at a center point, catch it when (if) it tipped, readjust my finger, and repeat until I had it.
If you want to maintain your emotional center, following the same, simple formula might help.
First, get a gauge on which emotional direction you’re tipping. Then, identify the emotional opposite. And, like when you’re trying to balance a long stick on your finger, adjust until you find equilibrium. Some examples:
But, not too much of the opposite, of course, because then you’ll tip in that direction instead.
Having too much of a good thing can cause you to emotionally lose balance all the same.
As Aristotle famously suggested, shoot for the mean between extremes.
Where you’re neither overly sensitive nor senseless, but aligned, aware, and at peace.