Too busy for inner work =
…And what exactly are you “too busy” doing again?
P.s. I also published 16 Fierce Jocko Willink Quotes from Discipline Equals Freedom today.
You can’t take away other people’s emotional pain.
No matter how much you love them; care for them; feel sympathy for them.
Emotional pain, like physical pain, is for the beholder to bear.
Any attempt to take away or “shoulder” another person’s emotional pain will only further delay their healing process. Because feeling is how emotional pain is released.
Be aware that you’re shouldering other people’s emotional pain when you:
There is no way around it; there is no “transferrable” option—the pain we’ve been dealt is the pain we have to confront.
What you can do, as a person who feels compassion for another person experiencing pain, is give them support—particularly your presence.
The same kind of support you would offer someone who got physically hurt.
You wouldn’t say: “Oh gosh! That looks like it hurts… want me to heal that pain for you?”
You’d do things more along the lines of:
And, of course, just being present is powerful in and of itself.
This lets them know that they’re not alone to bear the weight of the pain; that it’s okay to feel and isn’t something that needs to be hidden; that they are accepted—even during their low points.
And what a true gift that can be.
…All of our minds are.
With negativity, judgment, doubt, hate, jealousy…
It comes with the territory of being human—we’re emotional, comparative, imperfect creatures.
Knowing this—embodying this—we can begin our work of healing.
If you ignore this and pretend like your mind isn’t—you can’t.
Never assume your mind is immune to infectious beliefs.
Stand guard to the door of your mind and actively send soldiers of positivity, acceptance, belief, love, and compassion to confront the rebel infections trying to overtake your mind.
In other words: speak—both inwardly and outwardly—with the aim and intent of being cured as consistently and as often as possible.
And slowly, slowly… you shall be.
P.s. I’ll be hosting a LIVE chat on Twitter about the Ego and exploring if it’s our enemy or if it can be used to help us in life. Details here.
Life doesn’t suddenly decide one day to stop being challenging.
Not when you’re rich. Not when you’re retired. Not when you’re on a beach.
Challenge will always be present. And with challenge comes pain.
Run from the pain? And you’ll only multiply it for later (because you’ll have to deal with the pain that comes with later PLUS the pain that you ignored).
Confront the pain—and you’ll free your future self of some of that compounding pain.
The goal is to face today’s pains today so that you can confronting new, inevitable, better pains tomorrow.
…Better pains?
Yeah, the kind of pains you’d prefer to face—that you *get* to face—because of the work you did yesterday. You know, like exercise pain versus cardiac arrest pain. Or like a hard conversation pain versus lost relationship pain.
Delay confronting pain long enough and it will eventually become unbearably painful and/or absolutely unavoidable.
Your choice.
Sharing something you created with the wrong people will lead to disappointment.
Sharing something you created with the right people will lead to joy.
Neither outcome matters as much, however, as the fact that you shared something you created.
For creating is the ultimate joy and anything that stops you from creating is the ultimate disappointment.
P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.
Lowercase “bored” is the lame kind.
It’s how you feel when you’re laying on the couch, with the TV playing in the background, as you scroll mindlessly through never-ending timelines on your phone… only to say to yourself… “I’m bored.”
It’s the kind of bored that’s mostly privileged and wasteful.
The other kind of bored however… the “uppercase kind” is quite the opposite.
Capital “B” Bored is the humbling, life-giving kind.
It’s how you feel when you’re meandering in your thoughts on long walks and car rides. It’s how you feel when you stare at a blank page and can’t quite figure out what to write. It’s how you feel when you have a blank canvas and don’t know what to paint.
…It’s the kind of bored that leads to introspection, healing, and art.
When we create space in our lives for more “Boredom,” we allow feelings and ideas to arise that would otherwise be suppressed by the constant influx of information that pours in through our senses.
By allowing our minds to wander undistracted, we tap into a creativity and playfulness that we once knew as children. The kind that builds kingdoms from foam blocks; dynasties from action figures; and galaxies from toy shuttles.
When we allow ourselves to be Bored, we allow our imaginations to stretch their legs. To dance around and play with everything we’ve thrusted at them since the last time they were given space.
But, if we constantly bombard our minds with the lame-kind of bored… I’m afraid we’ll only continue to suppress that life-giving gift.
And what a tragedy that would be.
P.s. I also published A Short Story About Calming The Mind today.