…Are each teachers trying to instill a valuable lesson about your inner workings.
And you’ll keep getting the same lesson over and over until you actually pay attention, study, and pass their tests.
P.s. More on this here: How To Deal With People Who Annoy, Frustrate, and/or Upset You.
The weight from our past can be cripplingly heavy.
What we must remember, however, is that just as we can set down the heavy weight we pick up at the gym… so, too, can we set down the emotional weight we pick up throughout life.
We simply need to give ourselves the means (writing, talking, meditating), space, and permission to do so.
Imagine having to carry weight from the gym with you for an entire day—and not getting to put it down once. This is what your mind is experiencing except on a week/ month/ year/ decade level!
Sit; settle; relax; release; unload; unpack; talk; tremble; cry; confront; let go; let it flow.
…It’s time to re-rack some of that emotional weight you’ve been carrying for too long.
P.s. I’ll be hosting a LIVE chat Thursday (10/26) at 1:30pm EST on The Art of Mastering Your Mind to Scale In Business. I’d love to have you join if you’re free/interested.
BIG reactions from small happenings—both positive and negative—are events worth exploring (both in yourself and others).
BIG positive reactions (from small happenings) is a sign of emotional maturity—those who have done inner work.
BIG negative reactions (from small happenings) is a sign of emotional immaturity—those who are avoiding inner work.
If you find yourself having a disproportionately large reaction to something small… use it as an opportunity to explore your inner workings. Challenge yourself to set the huge reaction aside (if negative) and channel your inner curiosity instead.
Remember: big reactions don’t just come from nowhere.
They must stem from some deeper rooted source. The huge reactions, in many cases, are just distractions and coverups for what’s trying to remain unseen and in the background. But, the longer you ignore it (and allow the distractions to distract you), the worse it’ll get.
Because things don’t get better until you get better, eh?
Questions worth asking yourself when a disproportionate reaction arises:
A gentle reminder: the goal isn’t “healed,” it’s “to heal.”
Meaning, healing is an ongoing process—it isn’t something we complete.
If we take a few moments each day to:
We’ll be well on our way.
It’s when we set out to heal all of it that we become crippled with overwhelm, self-doubt, and fear.
P.s. For more on this topic, you can read my 20+ other 1-minute entries on healing here.
My car was recently up for inspection.
It drove fine. Oil and fluids were good. No suspicious noises or lights. It wasn’t pulling in any direction…
Taking it in felt like a waste of time.
But, when I did, lo’ and behold… my brakes were shot.
They needed to be replaced immediately.
This is why we do maintenance checks EVEN WHEN everything feels fine.
Because we might catch and address things before they’re definitely not fine.
And in case you didn’t catch it… this post has nothing to do with cars.
P.s. I’m on a mission to help busy people do inner work—so that they can live better lives. If these daily pieces have impacted you, you can support my ongoing work here. ☕️
Seth Godin pointed out that even the longest biography is only 66 hours on audio… which means the author has to leave out almost everything.
What’s more, is that when it comes time for people to reflect on you and your life, they will likely summarize who you were and what you stood for in a line or two.
That’s right… decades and decades of life… in a mere line of words.
…Nobody is reading a 66 hour biography at a remembrance of your life.
This space, between a line and 66 hours of audio, is the space you have to fill with legacy.
Those who plug their ears and “la-la-la” this thought are usually the ones who end up with regrets and a “mismatched” legacy.
Those who do the hard work of picking out their “line or two” now and use it as a guidepost for the rest of their life… are usually the ones who live lives that stand out—the kind that are deliberate, aligned, and inspiring.
Ask yourself: What do you hope people would say about you? What do you hope they would write? What do you want to be remembered for in one breath of words?
Now is the time to figure it out—while you’re alive and still have a say. Pick your legacy, embody it, and let your actions paint the picture of your legacy that’ll inspire thousands of words to follow. Live your masterpiece life.
P.s. Want to read more on legacy? Read my personal collection of 100+ quotes and resources on legacy here.