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Don’t Answer Yet

Published on August 7, 2022

Before you answer the question, make sure it’s the best possible version of the question you can ask.

“Why me?” or “What good can come from this?”
“Why can’t I get this right?” or “What can I do right now to improve?”
“Why is this so hard for me?” or “What would this look like if it were easy?”

Certain questions leave no room for good answers.

In fact, many of the questions we ask ourselves beget demeaning/ self-limiting/ hateful answers—and we’re better off not answering them at all.

Want to level up your life? You’ll need better answers for that.

And nothing will lead to better answers faster than asking better questions.

P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

The Self-Belief Producing Business

Published on August 4, 2022

It’s hard to take action of any kind when you don’t believe in yourself.

Just like it’s hard to start a business of any kind when you don’t have the resources yourself.

One strategy that has helped countless people start their businesses, however, is borrowing resources from others (like a bank) and paying them back later.

We can do the same thing with belief.

We can borrow belief from others, like a loan of sorts, that gives us the boost we need to take the action; to get the results (and hopefully successes); to build the confidence; to start the self-belief generating process on our own.

The absolute key to doing this is to surround ourselves with people who believe in the human potential. Growth-minded individuals who know that with alignment, action, effort, guidance, and reflection—great things are possible (no matter how inept a person might seem). People who will be there for us in victory AND defeat—because defeat is inevitable on the journey upward and teaches us lessons that victory never could.

Find your people and use their belief in you (or the human spirit) until you’re able to create your own self-sustaining self-belief producing business.

Then, pay off your loan (with gratitude and belief back into others), continue on the path, and let your belief “profits” give you the inner resources you need to chase whole-heartedly your wildest dreams.

I sip on coffee while I write these. If you enjoy these posts, you can support my future work by supplying me with one of my next cups of joe here. ☕️

Sunny/ Seventy Is The Way

Published on August 2, 2022

The ‘inner weather’ of our mind directly impacts how we get to travel in life.

A sunny/ seventy kind of mentality = full speed ahead.

An overcast/ foggy kind of mentality = which way is even forward?

In life, mental clarity is the sunny day that allows us to unleash our full energy and potential into the journey that lies ahead.

Mental cloudiness is what throttles all of our efforts to that creeping, hazard lights pace that makes the prospect of the journey seem so daunting, confusing, and un-accomplishable.

The good news with our “inner weather” vs the “outer weather” is that we can actually influence our inner weather.

Which is excellent news for the person who is driving 25mph forward on a road that they’re not even sure is correct.

How do we influence/ change our inner weather? By incorporating more of the tasks that lead to mental clarity and removing more of the tasks the lead to mental cloudiness.

Some tasks that lead to mental clarity:

Writing
Therapy
Meditation

Some tasks that lead to mental cloudiness:

Click-bait topics
Superficial Gossip
Busy, distraction-based work

Mental cloudiness is typically the byproduct of passive, modern day living. Click bait bombards you at every turn, superficial gossip is the comfortable/easy form of communication, and busy is essentially society’s status update.

Mental clarity is typically the byproduct of active, rebellious type living. Writing when click bait is buzzing… Therapy when superficial is literally calling your name… Meditation when busy is ingrained into your state of being…

If you want to unleash all of what’s inside, you need to rebel; you need to make space for clarity; you need to clear the fog that’s inside.

Moving Forward In Thought

Published on July 30, 2022

Sometimes, what your negative/ demeaning/ hateful thoughts need is a freaking way out.

Moving the thought from the head, through the body, to the hand or mouth, and out into paper/ keyboard/ conversation are all excellent strategies.

Nothing fancy required.

No special journals, questions, or prompts… Just plainly writing/ expressing/ sharing what’s on your mind so as to give your mind space from the thing it’s holding.

It’s not always obvious to people that this works.

They think more thinking is what needs to be done. But, what ends up happening is that the brain becomes overwhelmed with remembering—which throttles its thinking ability and essentially handicaps it from coming up with new thoughts (solutions).

By relieving the brain of some of that info, new space is freed up for fresh thinking that’ll eventually lead to either solutions or releasing (which is sometimes all we really need).

Don’t underestimate the power of writing, typing, and discussing what’s on your mind. It’s one of the most powerful means for moving forward in thought.

P.s. I asked: “How do YOU stop negative thinking” on Twitter. Here are the answers. I hope they help. 🌱

Your Job Description:

Published on July 29, 2022

It is not your job to:

Fix other people
Do somebody else’s work
Solve other people’s problems
Carry other people’s burdens
Be accessible to others 24/7

Your job is to do you and handle yours…

So that you can do some of the above things with pleasure—not resentment.

On Being Unapologetically Yourself

Published on July 26, 2022

3 Important things happen when you’re NOT unapologetically yourself:

Inner conflict arises because who you are and how you’re presenting are in opposition.
You attract people into your life who vibe with your mask.
You repel people who don’t vibe with your mask (who might be attracted to your authentic self).

3 Important things happen when you ARE unapologetically yourself:

You get to be your unapologetic self (no masks).
You attract people into your life who vibe with the real you.
People who don’t vibe with you will continue on their way.

3 Important things to remember when you are in the midst of being unapologetically yourself:

Not everyone will like it. Good. The ones who don’t—aren’t your tribe (even if you thought they were). Keep vibing unapologetically. Your real tribe won’t make you apologize for being you.
Not everyone you attract will be good additions to your tribe. You’ll need to keep firm boundaries up against energy vampires, energy manipulators, and toxic types.
Attraction works two ways. Don’t just wait for everybody else to attract to you. Take the initiative and follow the flow of your attractions. Sometimes, being unapologetically yourself involves being quiet, shy, and reserved. The same is true in others. Take more risks and reach out to people who you think you’d vibe really well with. Somebody has to take the initiative—might as well bring the control back into your court and let that somebody be you.

I love when my words make people “pensive.” Thank you for the kind words and coffee. This post is dedicated to you. ☕️

The Quiet [Poem]

Published on July 25, 2022

Never fear the quiet
That comes with the climb

While solitude
Might feel lonely

Elevating your mindset
Raising your vibration
Upgrading your standards
Expanding your vision
Advancing your position
Peaking your mountain

All require leaving
Most of the noise behind

Never fear the quiet
That comes with the climb