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Category: Thinking Clearly

Not All More Is Created Equal

We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to do more… more that gets added on top of the ton we already do… which usually happens when we compare ourselves to others…

Or we can choose to do less… which is usually best done when we remove the distractionary, unimportant stuff from our day…

…Which opens up space. Blank space. Blank canvas space. Boring blank canvas space.

The kind of boring blank canvas space that’ll inspire you to do more. That’ll pull you to do more. That’ll get you lost in the more.

What Are You Doing All That Work For?

After a school tour, a trial class, and feedback from my instructors, I met with a father about signing his two kids up for martial arts classes.

The class schedule, we soon realized, would be an issue.

His work schedule was sporadic and would only allow him to bring one of his kids in one time per week—and he didn’t have any alternative help.

I told him one time per week wouldn’t be enough and that I wouldn’t recommend signing his child up until he was sure he would be able to bring him in to at least two.

He agreed and we set up a follow up time when he could sign his other child up.

When that day came, he surprised me and told me he was ready to sign up both.

I asked him what changed and he said: I requested an extra day off work so that I could make this work. This is important and I realized I needed to make it a priority. Otherwise, what am I doing all that work for?

He continued to tell me that even though money might be a little more tight, seeing his kids grow up to be the best little humans they could be was priceless. And he felt our program could help him do that.

…What are you doing all that work for?

I Struggle With Perfectionism

Before I publish or share or create anything—I want it to be subjectively perfect.

I obsess over the smallest of details and will stubbornly refuse to ship until I either exhaust my list of details or myself.

And even when I exhaust myself… I still oftentimes won’t ship. In fact, I’ll use it as an excuse to further delay projects.

Most recently, I’ve been recording videos. And my goal is to keep the process as simple as possible—for the reasons I just outlined. One platform, one message, one take.

And of course, like clockwork, my social media algorithms have suddenly started feeding me video optimization content.

Things that talk about angles, and lighting, and transitions, and iPhone camera settings, and titles, and subtitles, and hashtags, and music choice, and captions, and hooks, and triple hooks, and the god hook, and green screens, and editing tips, and virality hacks, and…

…And this is exactly why I stopped making videos before.

My current mantra is this: reject optimization at the outset.

…Simply get into a rhythm producing content in a way that’s aligned with me—not the algorithm.

Not that there’s anything wrong with playing the social media game… just that it’s not for me right now.

The reason this blog has lasted as long as it has is because I’m not trying to hack anything. I’m not trying to optimize or broadcast or write for what ranks well on search engines.

I’m writing for myself—in hopes that it also might help others.

And I need to remind myself that these videos are going to serve the same purpose.

Onward.

…And What We Can Do About It

One of my employees sat me down in my office yesterday and explained to me why he thinks some of our students are getting bored and what we can do about it.

It’s the… “and what we can do about it” part that impressed me.

People come to me with problems essentially my entire work shift each day.

Parents having problems with their kids, kids having problems with other kids, instructors having problems students, students having problems with the curriculum, something in the school is broken and has become a problem, associates realizing that something in our system is broken and has become a problem, and so on.

Granted, it’s a career I love and this isn’t a complaint about the problems I’ve professionally chosen to take on.

It’s more so a highlight of how valuable and refreshing it is to have somebody come to me with… solutions.

And it makes them stand out because the default seems to be, “It’s not my job to fix this…” or “I’ll deal with this later” or “I can’t wait to get home tonight to watch my show…” and it gets swept under the rug and/or forgotten about and/or pawned off on somebody else.

A rule that was told to me years ago that I try my best to carry with me for everything I do is, “Don’t come to me with a problem unless you also have a solution to go with it.”

Build Something Better In Its Place

If you’re going to boycott something to starve it of resources (of your own at the very least), don’t forget to actively invest your resources elsewhere to help the alternative grow.

Because not participating altogether isn’t helping anything better grow just as it isn’t helping what you’re avoiding grow—you’re essentially just becoming a bystander/spectator.

Don’t like what you’re seeing on social media?

Don’t like what you’re hearing on the news?

Don’t like what a company did to their employee(s)?

Starving it of your time, energy, attention, and money is an excellent option.

…Creating social media that you wish you saw more of?

…Covering stories and/or spotlighting people that you wish you read more about in the news?

…Choosing to buy from companies that have good culture, good business integrity, and high moral code?

Now that’s the type of effort that leads to a better world.

It can’t just be about tearing everything down and/or opting out of the system altogether.

It has to be about building something better in its place.

Life Is Always Fresh

What if you started believing that repetition didn’t exist?

Even in—especially in—the moments that seem to repeat themselves day-in and day-out.

Are you waking up again to the same alarm, at the same time, in the same way again? …Or is something different? …Have some things evolved? …Have some things regressed?

Are you seeing the same people at the same times and in the same ways again? …Or are they different? …Has your connection evolved? …Has it regressed?

Are you perceiving your world in the same ways at the same times and in the same ways? …Or it just because your perception is boring? …Or maybe it’s fatigued? …Or maybe it’s lazy?

The thing is: repetition doesn’t exist.

Life is always fresh.

We never step into the same river of reality twice. Both the river and us—the stepper—are constantly changing. Evolving. Regressing. Learning. Unlearning. Absorbing. Releasing. Crashing. Flowing…

The reality is we stop investing into the freshness of our perception so, of course, it goes bad. Spend a little time looking closer, however, and you might start to see that the changes aren’t even tiny… but are profound.

Sometimes The Simplest Moments Hold The Most Profound Truths

Like that moment when your serious and grave focus at work gets interrupted for something completely goofy and ridiculous… like a child running into your office with flower sunglasses on, a lay around his neck, his shirt off, no shoes, all while laughing hysterically as he tries to escape from mom.

…It ain’t that deep.

Or that moment when you do something completely goofy and ridiculous… like get out of your car and dance foolishly in a parking lot with music blasting because the song that came on is too good not to.. and the person you’re with gives you the same goofy and ridiculous energy back.

…Surround yourself with people who make being you easy.

Or that moment when you sit down to relax after doing something really hard… like show up to the gym or your workout class after an already long and challenging day and still giving it your best effort even though you felt like getting into the car itself required more energy than you had… and feeling accomplished and proud and completely content in doing so.

…Nothing worthwhile comes easily.

What are some simple moments from your recent days and what might those profound truths be for you?