Just as you might make time for learning…
So, too, should you make time for unlearning.
Adding knowledge is undoubtedly helpful…
But removing limiting beliefs and toxic thought patterns is liberating.
I help busy people do inner work.
Just as you might make time for learning…
So, too, should you make time for unlearning.
Adding knowledge is undoubtedly helpful…
But removing limiting beliefs and toxic thought patterns is liberating.
Rather than thinking about what you can ADD to your to-do list…
Think about what you can SUBTRACT.
The reality is… we do WAY too much stupid stuff every day.
And by eliminating more of the stupid stuff… VOILA—you’ll have more time for the not-stupid stuff.
Which is ultimately what we’re really after when we make to-do lists isn’t it?
Have you ever struggled and thought to yourself: “Why am I even complaining about this when millions have it SO much worse than me…”
Recognize that this is a toxic thought.
It essentially translates into: “My struggles are invalid and it’s wrong for me to feel how I do.”
…Which naturally leads to emotional suppression, message(s) ignoring, and a worsening of overall state. This is no way to solve a struggle.
Struggles are solved when you add confrontation (with the emotion(s)), subtract comparison, and give all of your feelings equal space to communicate the message(s) your body purposefully sent via them.
Telling yourself they’re wrong for being there doesn’t change the fact that they’re there.
Letting them fulfill their purpose—does. It allows them to move through you and out of your system—to wherever it is that fulfilled feelings go.
Send them there. Don’t deny, suppress, and exasperate them deeper inside, here.
Rather than looking at unpleasant emotions (e.g. anxiety, anger, upset) as burdens…
Look at them as powerful sources of fuel.
If you look closely at some of your favorite creations from throughout history… you might be surprised by how many were fueled by unpleasant emotions compared to those that were not.
Which begs the question… what might you be able to do/ create when your unpleasant emotions become fuel rather than weight?!
P.s. Here’s a short story about Frida Kahlo (as an example) and the unexpected gifts pain can provide.
In a world that’s constantly trying to get you to do addition:
Commit to doing more subtraction instead:
Addition, now more than ever, is the modern day toxin—and subtraction is the antidote.
Before you answer the question, make sure it’s the best possible version of the question you can ask.
Certain questions leave no room for good answers.
In fact, many of the questions we ask ourselves beget demeaning/ self-limiting/ hateful answers—and we’re better off not answering them at all.
Want to level up your life? You’ll need better answers for that.
And nothing will lead to better answers faster than asking better questions.
P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.
Surface level cuts might only require time to heal.
Deeper cuts will require more than that.
As it is with inner healing.
Some surface level pains may only need time.
But, the deeper pains will require more active solutions.
Give your deep cuts only time to heal and they will likely become infected (and worsen).
By matching the proper prognosis to the severity of the (inner) pain, you’ll maximize your ability (and minimize the time it takes) to heal.
This starts by being completely honest with yourself or, better yet, getting an objective perspective about the severity of your inner pains; understanding the prognosis for each; and finding a way to take the proper actions in spite of the resistance you’re bound to face.
As hard as inner healing might be… it always beats infected inner wounds that you’re forced to face because of their un-ignorable severity. This is never a better route.