Too busy for inner work =
…And what exactly are you “too busy” doing again?
P.s. I also published 16 Fierce Jocko Willink Quotes from Discipline Equals Freedom today.
A question I’ve been chewing on lately:
“If I was coaching me what uncomfortable questions would I ask myself and (the important part) push myself to answer?”
Because ultimately, this is what many of the best coaches do. Why? Because we’re much more likely to believe the things we tell ourselves over the things others tell us.
And a good coach knows, if they can get you to say to yourself what they were just going to straight up tell you… their message will be far more likely to stick.
And how does one do this? By asking the right questions.
So, why not sit yourself down, get yourself a cup of coffee, put on some noise-cancelling headphones, and give it a shot yourself?
Even 15 minutes can completely alter the direction of your life.
Or… you could pay someone thousands and they could do it for you? Or… you could just not do it at all?
As always… growth in life will always be a personal choice.
The point I want to make is: the choice to grow is closer (and less expensive) than you might think.
P.s. Got any good questions that have led to noteworthy personal growth? Send a reply. I’d love to hear them.
As soon as you stop doing inner work, ego wins control.
The problem with ego winning is:
Inner work challenges each of these tendencies and asks important questions. Things like:
And if you’re not sure who’s in control upstairs, go ahead and try answering those questions for yourself.
Are you steered towards “La-la-la” or intrigue?
You might be surprised.
P.s. I asked, “What is it exactly that makes your best friend your best friend?” Here are the answers. A great place to linger if you’d like to build more solid relationships in your life.
I have access to:
If that’s not enough, then I don’t know what is.
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You can’t take away other people’s emotional pain.
No matter how much you love them; care for them; feel sympathy for them.
Emotional pain, like physical pain, is for the beholder to bear.
Any attempt to take away or “shoulder” another person’s emotional pain will only further delay their healing process. Because feeling is how emotional pain is released.
Be aware that you’re shouldering other people’s emotional pain when you:
There is no way around it; there is no “transferrable” option—the pain we’ve been dealt is the pain we have to confront.
What you can do, as a person who feels compassion for another person experiencing pain, is give them support—particularly your presence.
The same kind of support you would offer someone who got physically hurt.
You wouldn’t say: “Oh gosh! That looks like it hurts… want me to heal that pain for you?”
You’d do things more along the lines of:
And, of course, just being present is powerful in and of itself.
This lets them know that they’re not alone to bear the weight of the pain; that it’s okay to feel and isn’t something that needs to be hidden; that they are accepted—even during their low points.
And what a true gift that can be.
The number of competitors you have in this world is directly tied to the depth of your self-love. The more you love yourself… the fewer competitors you have.
Why? Because the more you love yourself, the less you have to prove. Challenge is welcome. But, the egotistical need to place yourself above others, dissipates. You’re already whole. You’re already worthy. You’re already great. That’s what self-love proves.
See… the real challenge isn’t to increase the number of people you’ve beaten… it’s to increase the depth of your self-love until external competition ceases to exist.
P.s. I have a collection of 280+ quotes and resources on self-love. You can browse here.
What does the black belt version of you look like?
For me, as a 20+ year martial arts practitioner, black belt represents something much greater than combat or performance abilities.
Black belt represents potential fought for; potential realized; potential unleashed.
It’s a firm commitment to the realization of a greater version of yourself. A version that’s disciplined; focused; confident; respectful; generous. A 2.0 version that’s built to handle to challenges presented by life.
What does your black belt version look like? Even if you never plan on stepping foot into a Dojang (although I think it’s beneficial for most everybody)—a deep visualization practice can produce a life-changing image.
Because once you see this version clearly in your mind, you can finally start to reverse engineer your way to that 2.0 you. Without it, 1.0 you is all you’ll ever know. And you can’t reverse engineer to what you don’t know.
Close your eyes and start building.
P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.