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On Coming Around

People will come around when they will.

It’s not your responsibility to make them come around or to expedite their coming around process (unless, of course, it is).

It’s your responsibility to focus on your own coming around.

Don’t put your life on hold so that others can have somebody else focused on their coming around.

Keep playing your life out as you will (without hesitation or apology) and leave behind a strong model worth coming around for.


P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week here.

Ninja Your Comfort Zone

Imagine this: your body naturally opposes anything that puts it outside of its comfort zone… so you make such gradual, incremental, deliberate changes that you essentially slip past your body’s comfort zone radar detectors and ninja your way to a better life without getting thwarted with every single one of your body’s exhausting resistance mechanisms.

I honestly think this is a viable path.

The Default Reality

An important reminder: regression is the default.

If you don’t actively oppose the way of reality… you’ll become:

  • Weaker
  • Sicker
  • Dull(er)

We must rebel against:

  • The comfort of beds, couches, and gaming chairs.
  • The delight of sugar, salt, and high-fructose corn syrup.
  • The grips of Netflix, mindless gaming, and click-bait media.

Progression is reserved for the brave ones who reject the default reality and choose to live a life that’s against the grain and in alignment with their highest version.

Never Forget

What thought(s) significantly changed your life for the better? …For the worst?

Good. Now never forget the power of your thoughts.

What’s one of the most powerful things you’ve ever been told? …Most hurtful things?

Good. Now never forget the power of your words.

Who has had one of the biggest influences on your life? …One of the worst?

Good. Now never forget the power of influence you have on all of those around you.

Filling Inner Holes

The bigger your sense of lack…

The deeper your inner holes will feel.

And the deeper the inner hole, the more that’ll be required to fill it.

But, remember… filling a hole can be done in two very different ways:

1) Buying external hole-filler (which is often costly, hard to come by, and labor-intensive—you know… that luxury brand, media-worshipped, top-shelf style hole-filler).

2) Using internal hole-filler (you know, the stuff you threw next to the hole while you were doing all of that inner hole digging in the first place).

Remember this as you look around today… at the many wonderful things you often don’t notice, the people you often can’t stand, and the blessings you so often take for granted.

Maybe the “holes” inside aren’t holes at all.

Maybe they’re just parts of ourselves that, for one reason or another, became uneven from some unintentional / subconscious digging that we did and then left ignored. And what we need to do isn’t buy some fancy filler… but do some inner-landscaping/ leveling with what’s already there.

Because whole is how we were born. “With-holes” is something that sometimes happens as we go. And filling inner holes is best done with the stuff that’s already next to them—inside.


P.s. Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate it. I’m very thankful to have you with me on this ride.

Less Frustrating

Other people are not here to:

  • Treat you perfectly
  • Rave about your work
  • Meet your expectations
  • Clean up after your messes
  • Agree with your every opinion
  • Conform to your belief systems
  • Celebrate your every step forward in life
  • Change their lives so you don’t have to change yours
  • Act in a way that aligns with your lifestyle and healing
  • Watch closely and respond immediately to your timeline affairs

Realize this and suddenly, life becomes a whole lot less frustrating.


P.s. I don’t have any Black Friday sales, but if you see any of these books on sale this weekend, I would definitely recommend getting them. And here’s my full library of quoted books :)

What’s The Emotion?

Every emotion is trying to signal something to our mind:

  • Anger = What you care about / Where your boundaries are / etc.
  • Jealousy = What you want / The types of feelings you want to have / etc.
  • Sadness = What holds meaning / What really matters / etc.

This is why it’s so crucial to identify the emotion.

You can’t interpret the signal you don’t identify or get confused.