Category: Living Well

Curiosity and Response

Published on August 13, 2023

There’s a little boy who lives down the street from me, 3 years old maybe, who runs up to me every time I walk my dog past his house.

“Hi” he’ll yell excitedly as he runs up to us—carefully staying outside the range of the leash as he’s still apprehensive of my dog.

“What are you doing? What’s your dog’s name? Where are you going?”

Are the three questions he asks in quick succession each time.

“Walking my dog. Stella. Back towards home.”

Is how I’ll quickly reply.

He’s always just as excited to find out as he was the last time he asked.

What I love about this little boy—and with many kids at this age—is that magical mix of courage and curiosity.

There is zero hesitation in his excited yell. There is no gap between his curiosity and his response. And there’s no self-consciousness or self-limiting beliefs that keep him reserved and quiet as a spectator in the background.

How… I wondered to myself as Stella and I continued home… do I unlearn my way back to such a pure and valuable state?

How… I wonder now as I write this for you to read… can we unlearn our way back to such a pure and valuable state as a society?

P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

On Doing “Good”

Published on August 11, 2023

One of my martial arts students pulled me aside the other day, with an upcoming tournament on his mind, and told me his main motivation to compete comes from the idea of inspiring his son—who also trains martial arts.

He told me he wanted his son to see him do “good” so that he’d be inspired to do good, too.

I asked him what doing “good” meant to him.

He said, “winning.”

I asked him if winning was what was most important to him when it came to his son’s performance… because I could put him with a group of white belts if that’s what he wanted (he’s a red belt).

He thought about it for a minute and said, “No.”

He then described how he would want his son to show courage, have fun, try his best, demonstrate good sportsmanship, and use the experiences from the tournament as fuel for his future training.

I told him that if that’s what he wanted his son to prioritize… the best thing he can do is prioritize those same things, too.

P.s. If you’d like to read along, I’m going to start uploading quotes from Think Like A Monk by Jay Shetty to MoveMe Quotes in the upcoming weeks.

Copiers

Published on August 9, 2023

When you’re scared to share out of fear that what you know will get copied or taken… it means you don’t have a sufficient personal growth / learning system in place.

The formulas are simple:

When learning/growth < what’s shared ➜ Fear of getting copied / ideas taken
When learning/growth > what’s shared ➜ Joy in having people copy and use your ideas
When learning/growth = what’s shared ➜ Mixed feelings towards different copying / idea-using situations

Lesson: Always disproportionately prioritize time for learning and personal growth over what you have time to share and you’ll never fear getting copied or having ideas taken—in fact, it’ll only bring you increasing joy to see people act from your influence.

And to those who maliciously copy and steal your ideas in an attempt to selfishly make personal gains—report them and take the appropriate actions, but remember, ideas superficially understood quickly crumble under even the slightest stress test.

Authenticity and an internal understanding of what’s shared are what stand strong against the relentless tests of time. Believe it.

Intentional Slowness

Published on August 8, 2023

Here’s an idea: Wake up earlier—not so you can get more done—but so you can move slower throughout your day.

…Move slower from bed to shower; from one exercise to the next; while eating; while driving; while walking; when speaking with people; when arriving back home and reacquainting with family; while cooking dinner; while reading; while writing; while watching the sun go down.

We’ve been brainwashed to believe that rushing is the key to productivity.

…It’s not.

If anything, rushing is the thief of presence. It steals away from us our connection to the present moment and has us constantly refreshing our awareness of what needs to happen next, next, next. So much so that there’s no awareness left for where we are—physically or mentally—throughout the day.

And so our day slips away. Time and again.

…And how much time does rushing ever really save us anyway?

I’ve rushed to work and I’ve casually commuted and the difference—at max—has only ever been 1-3 minutes. I’ve rushed to get tasks done versus got them done with full presence and have often lost more time than gained in silly mistakes and errors. I’ve scarfed down food and I’ve sat and enjoyed a meal—and maybe 15 minutes were accounted for.

…But is time gained from rushing really time gained?

My argument is that what’s “gained” from rushing is lost in presence. And the loss in presence is the far greater loss in comparison. Which is why, for those used to rushing, sprinkling 30-60 additional minutes throughout the day for intentional slowness could result in a pretty significant and noteworthy gain.

Pure Harmony

Published on August 7, 2023

While food shopping, I saw a can of meat branded as “Pure Harmony.”

Branding like this really ticks me off because pure harmony is the exact opposite of what’s in that can.

As consumers, it’s important to be aware of the impact of our purchase decisions. Whatever we buy increases demand. And so long as there’s a demand, so, too, will there be a continued supply.

Mind you, Pure Harmony, in this instance, is for dog food and I’m not advocating you turn your dog vegan (mine’s not).

I am, however, encouraging you to be mindful of the decisions you make for yourself and your family—modern day marketing can by tricky! Happy cows, dancing chickens, brands names like Pure Harmony, etc… I didn’t make the connection between my food shopping choices and the world at large until I was in my mid-20’s.

Making simple changes like switching dairy milk to a nondairy substitute, or practicing “Meatless Mondays,” or cutting out red meat altogether can have a disproportionately significant impact. One that’s beneficial for the animals, the environment, and your health.

And if nothing else, think of the real step towards harmony you take when the food you eat doesn’t cost an animal their life…

But, I digress.

P.s. If you have any questions about eating less meat or dairy, send a reply to this email.

A Step Back From Complicated

Published on August 3, 2023

When I first started writing daily, I felt a strong inclination to share pictures with each post.

I knew that images grab attention and might hook along more readers.

I also knew that images can add a level of communication for the visually inclined learners that words alone might not provide.

But, what I also knew was finding the right image added steps to my daily process… it took time to thoroughly search, download, reformat, resize, upload, caption, add metadata, etc.

…Sometimes, this process even took me longer than writing the words themselves!

Which is why, in spite of the obvious benefits of having images associated with my writing, I decided against using them.

It’s important to remember that when you set out to do something, you don’t have to do it in the absolute best way you know how. Sometimes (oftentimes), it’s best to just keep it simple and cut out anything and everything that doesn’t have to do with the core of the work itself.

A single step back from complicated is worth a dozen steps forward (or more) in simplicity.

Future Proofing Habits

Published on July 30, 2023

What’s the one daily habit you know you should build into your lifestyle more than any other? (e.g. Exercise)

Good. Now, answer me this:

What’s the smallest viable version of that daily habit (i.e. What can you do, that will require the least effort, that will still count as a completion of that task)? (e.g. jog around the block once).

Okay. Finish by reflecting on this:

What’s an even smaller viable version of that daily habit that you can do when you’re sick or injured? (e.g. walk around the block once or do a light stretching session for 10-20 minutes).

The goal with daily habits is to keep them daily. Not just because of the benefits of the task you’re doing, but because of the momentum that comes from the streak. Which means one of your top priorities needs to be no zero days.

And if you have the above questions answered, you’ll be ready for the days when you’re most likely to break your streak.

By planning for the days when you’re tired/ busy/ or lazy (which will likely be most of your future days lol), and by planning for the days when you’re sick or injured (which will account for a good handful for sure), you’re essentially future proofing your daily task.

…Because if there’s anything I’ve learned about the future it’s that it’s going to be way harder than we think. And the good part is, if we plan for it to be that way, the only surprise will be when it’s not.

P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.