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I Threw The Colors In The Whites Pile…

I was separating whites from colors when doing laundry today.

And I had a moment where I threw the colors that were in my hand into the whites pile because I was looking ahead at the whites that I was going to grab next after tossing what was in my hand into the whites pile.

It was a subtle reminder to slow down. To not get ahead of myself. To be where my senses were and not on fast forward in my head.

…The moments spend doing laundry are moments just as worthy of presence as any other moments of the day.

Don’t Let Busy Steal Presence

What’s the difference between a stereotypical modern day busy person and a monk who both have a day completely full of back-to-back tasks ahead of them?

…Presence within each of the day’s moments.

Take your time.

Slow your mind.

Soak in each moment in full.

Just because you have a busy schedule doesn’t mean you have to be busy minded.

Are You Working ON Your Life Or IN Your Life?

As a manager of a martial arts school, it’s my job to work ON the business rather than IN the business.

I need to zoom out of the day-to-day operations and take time to notice patterns, brainstorm initiatives, innovate, improve systems and organization, invest in human resources, refine communication, create exciting futures, plant seeds, study industry trends, find synergistic opportunities, align with like minded people and businesses, help my staff do their jobs in the most brilliant way possible…

But if I’m fully absorbed in the day-to-day operations and I’m answering every phone call, hanging every flyer, calling every lead, booking every appointment, doing every school tour, meeting with every student, teaching every class, chatting with every parent, planning every class, photoshopping every promotion, editing every social media post, and so on…

…I’ll have no time left over to zoom out.

Which isn’t to say as a manager I can’t be doing any of the latter mentioned tasks—I still do many of them and do so joyfully—it’s just to say I can’t do all of them, all of the time.

…As it is for how you should be living your life.

Don’t become so absorbed in the day-to-day that you can’t take time to zoom out every now and again. Find time to work ON your life rather than always being stuck working IN your life. And as counterintuitive as it might sound… and as busy as you might feel… adding time to work ON your life, even when you’re in the heat of working IN it… is precisely how you become UNstuck and LESS busy.

Good luck.

How Much “Bored Noticing” Do You Do Every Day?

An expression you’ll constantly hear a busy person say is something along the lines of: How is it already [insert day of the week/month/year]?!

…Or some type of otherwise reference to how fast time is flying by.

The good thing about this is that it means that person found a way to spend their time that’s making it fly by… and that maybe they’re even having fun.

On the other hand, it also means that person is on track to feeling like they missed out on their life…

Because days turn into weeks which turn into months which turn into years which turn into… eventually… the end of a life where that person feels like they don’t even know what happened.

And that can feel like an ultimate regret: not being present enough of life while it was happening because they were always too focused on what was coming up next…

The antidote to this is presence.

And present moments are simply moments absorbed that are absent of past or future.

And the best way to describe how to add these to your day is to try and add more moments of boredom… moments (or blocks of time) where you have absolutely nothing planned… moments where you get to simply sit… exist… and notice everything about where you’re at right then and there.

Because as lame or as unimportant as it might feel to you in that moment… it’s the very thing your future self would do or give almost anything to re-experience.

Block more moments of bored noticing into your days.


P.s. ICYMI you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week here.

Escaping Work Shouldn’t Be Your Life Goal

The goal is to build something that doesn’t need escaping from.

…Because escaping only lasts so long before your innate desire to build something arises again.

And not because we humans love to work—because we don’t.

But because we human crave fulfillment—and what’s worse than work is feeling like you’re living an empty type of existence.

So, back to work we go… because fulfillment is something building provides. Here’s how:

Building is growth—what else is building, but combining a bunch of lesser parts into some type of a greater whole?

Building is contribution—the value that’s added from this lesser parts combination becomes a creation that at the very least, serves you, which helps you to then serve others.

Building is connection/love—connecting parts, connecting minds, connecting resources, connecting ideas, connecting hearts…

Building is significance—whether it’s solely yours to build or you’re a part of a team that’s building somebody else’s dream… you get to leave your fingerprints on something that otherwise wouldn’t exist.

Building is certainty—it allows you to plan, dream, draw, shape, and mold something that starts out abstract and slowly becomes a tangible part of reality.

Building is uncertainty—and then, of course, things never go perfectly according to plan, so you get to adjust, pivot, problem-solve, fire fight, and learn by doing in an unpredictable way.

The real question you need to be grappling with isn’t—how can I escape from this work.

The real question you need to be grappling with is—how can I better incorporate each of these above elements into the work I’m choosing to do?

How Much Do You Study For Life?

The good thing about studying is you know how to answer related questions when they arrive…

…Don’t study, and you won’t know the answers.

This makes perfect sense in regards to tests and exams at school… or presentations given at work… but what about how it relates to life?

Why do we place such an emphasis on math… but not financial literacy?

Why do we place such an emphasis on science… but not human relationships?

Why do we place such an emphasis on history… but not mental health and healing past trauma?

Why do we place such an emphasis on sports… but not healthy living or habit building?

Why do we place such an emphasis on art… but not creative self-expression or alchemizing pain?

There are things I just don’t think I’ll ever understand when it comes to how we prioritize certain taught topics over others…

But, one thing I do understand… is that in this world we live in… most of the topics we’re going to get quizzed on by life… are topics we’re going to have to study for on our own.

We’re going to need to read interesting books… seek out life experienced people… have tough conversations… replay, reflect on, and unpack raw experience moments… and, of course, do deliberate and consistent inner work.

Don’t be surprised when life throws you some questions you don’t know the answer to when you haven’t studied.

Remember… school teaches you how to play the game of getting good letter grades.

You need to teach yourself how to play the game of living your best life.

You Are A Piano

Imagine being a piano your whole life and only randomly poking and prodding keys from time to time.

Imagine being a piano your whole life, filled with every string and key of potential to play the most beautiful of songs any of our ears have ever heard… and only making noise.

Imagine being a piano your whole life and never playing or creating a single song…

You are a piano.

And what most people do is poke and prod and make a bunch of noise. They watch tv, scroll social media, rage bait, rabbit-hole click, suppress emotions, use divisive language, pick fights, litter their waste, complain about their problems, binge eat, cheat, point fingers, and do drugs and drink alcohol to make it all feel temporarily better.

You might as well just throw the piano into the garbage at this rate.

But, if you zoom out for a second and quiet the noise of your mind…

What you might hear… very faintly and as quiet as can be… is a melody…

…Resonating from deep within—where your song potential sits patiently.

And all you have to do is continue to clear the mind and concentrate on the sound to bring the volume up slowly.

And eventually… your song and various melodies will take priority over the noise… it’ll become the new priority of your time and energy… and what you’ll soon see…

Is that you are, indeed, a piano.

And that your life’s task… is to play your song and melody.


P.s. I finished uploading quotes from A Psalm For The Wild Built to MMQ. You can read my favorites here.