We don’t form connections over what’s perfect, we bond over what’s imperfect.
Remember this when your trials result in error, mistakes, and failure—those are connecting points, not disconnecting points.
I help busy people do inner work.
We don’t form connections over what’s perfect, we bond over what’s imperfect.
Remember this when your trials result in error, mistakes, and failure—those are connecting points, not disconnecting points.
The solution to loneliness isn’t exotic destinations.
…It’s connection.
And connection happens when you say to the world: “This is who I am.”
Rather than waiting for the world to notice you and, at best, say: “This is who you’re going to be.”
Because how can anyone else connect with you if you aren’t first connected with yourself?
The antidote to harm: Love.
The antidote to hate: Love.
The antidote to indifference: Love.
The antidote to fear: Love.
The antidote to cruelty: Love.
Be a walking antidote to the poisons of the world.
The size of your love for another Isn’t equal to the size of love the other receives The most beautiful love letter ever written Pales in comparison to a simple hug from the one that’s right If there’s anything I’ve learned from love in this life It’s that love, like death, isn’t something you get to decide
You can only help in so far as you are strong.
Those who never build their own strength remain weak—and their ability to help others remains weak, too.
Imagine a person who has never lifted a weight running around a gym, giving people 20 minute lectures on how to lift weights.
Now imagine a jacked person who is usually quietly focused in the corner walking over to you and offering you a quick, 20 second correction on your form.
Which would you prefer—the 20 minutes or the 20 seconds?
Of course you’d prefer the 20 seconds.
Because the advice is coming from a place of strength.
And in order to build that strength, what did the jacked person have to do?
Avoid running around the gym giving people 20 minute lectures on how to lift weights and focus on him/herself!
This is the oxymoron of helping others. You can only help others better when you become better. And the only way to become better is to focus on yourself—and occasionally ignore the never-ending call to help others.
Don’t run around offering help to people if you haven’t spent time helping yourself.
Quietly stay focused in your corner until you’ve reached your point of being full.
Then, pour from your full cup the full strength of your advice.
Don’t say forever Like you know what that means You’ve been here but a blink And in but a fraction of that You promise the rest of time Like you know what that means. Here's what I think you mean: The size of my feelings Feels like the size of forever Squeezed into the size of this moment And it's bursting at its seams. If there's one thing I really want you to say —It's exactly what you mean. Because here's what I know: This smallest piece Of the greatest whole Becomes our greatest whole When it is no longer just a piece. The size of what we have right here —Is all we'll ever be able to truly give and receive. So, before you give away A bursting moment for an overused cliché Package the size of your feelings Within the size of this moment And give this one complete gift to me Where you're still able to feel and say —Exactly what you mean.
Surround yourself with people who are growth-minded.
Not people who are distraction-oriented.
Being around growth will make you want to grow.
…Even more than being around (distracted) experts in your field.