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Category: Understanding Love

Who/What Are You *Really* Saying ‘No’ To?

Published on July 24, 2022

Instead of saying “Yes” because you’re worried/ scared/ anxious about saying “No…”

Meditate for a brief moment on ALL of the other opportunities/people you’d be saying “No” to if you said “Yes…”

  • Saying “Yes” to another obligation = Saying “No” to every other task you could be engaging in during that time instead.
  • Saying “Yes” to that social outing you don’t want to go to = Saying “No” to all of the self-care activities you could be doing instead.
  • Saying “Yes” to more time at work = Saying “No” to more time with family, friends, your lover, or yourself.
  • And so on…

This was the advice I needed to hear that (finally) made saying “No” exponentially easier.

I hope it does the same for you.

P.s. Today, I also published Adam Sandler’s Speech from Hustle [2022] “Never Back Down”

Character Confessions

Published on July 10, 2022

A person’s highlight reel, them in a good mood, how they act on a date or in a business environment, etc. all give off superficial impressions.

Want to really get to know somebody?

Watch closely to how they:

  • Act when they’re angry
  • Handle genuine mistakes
  • Respond to losing an argument
  • Treat people less fortunate than them
  • Talk about people who aren’t there

These are the real confessions of their character.

The Real Leaders

Published on July 9, 2022

Those who know how to renew love in spite of it all—

…even after hate

…even after tragedy

…even after heartbreak

—are the real leaders (and gems) of our society.

The Catch-22 of Likability

Published on July 6, 2022

The more time you spend thinking about how you can get other people to like you…

The less time you’ll be able to spend thinking about how you can become someone you like.

And here’s the catch-22.

The more time you spend becoming someone YOU like… the more likely other people will like you.

And the more time you spend trying to be someone who is liked… the less other people will end up liking you.

The Cloud That Never Rained

Published on June 29, 2022

Imagine the cloud that always held on to its rain.

Imagine the weight; the effort; the burden.

Imagine the hardened soil, dehydrated plants, and barren landscape.

Now, image the person who always held on to their pain.

Imagine the weight; the effort; the burden.

Imagine the hardened interactions, dehydrated relationships, and barren lifestyle.

Maybe holding on to the pain isn’t the most beneficial thing to do (so that others don’t experience the pain you’re holding).

Maybe releasing the pain is the most beneficial thing you can do.

Maybe it’s the vulnerable release that’s needed for your gray clouds to clear away.

Maybe it’s the feeling of a more authentic human experience that the barren landscape of our lives are craving more of each day.

And maybe the best way to do this isn’t to release above the umbrella walkers who are seemingly allergic to getting wet—but to share the experience of feeling the rain with the people who jump in puddles and know that clothes dry.

P.s. Thank you to Belinda for the coffee. This post was fueled by your generosity. :)

Blades of Grass [Poem]

Published on June 28, 2022 
A tall blade of grass
Looks down upon
A sea of green blades

Some bigger
Some thinner
Some pointed
Some flat
Some darker
Some lighter

What a shame
That in a sea of green
That’s what is seen