Category: Meaningful Connection

Sometimes love needs space.

What makes the fire burn strong is the balance between wood and no wood; burn and breath; presence and absence.

Too much of one and it’ll smother. Too much of the other and it’ll wane until there’s nothing left for the flames to grab. Navigate this balance mindfully and you’ll keep your fire—and love—burning strong.

Assume the fire will keep itself in order… or try to forcefully overkeep it… and it’ll die.

When you visualize the love you share with another as a fire… what do you see?

A waning, untended to, slowly collapsing fire? A huge pile of wood with a suffocating flame? Or a beautifully balanced, well ordered and maintained fire you can cozy up to at the end of a long, cold day?

Spend some time with this meditation and treat your visualized fire how you would that fire while camping at the outset of a cool, crisp evening.

Love, like fire, requires active involvement if we want to passively enjoy its emanating heat.

• To the loyal, overworked, under appreciated parent…
• To the initiative-taking, hardworking, underpaid employee…
• To the relentlessly positive, upbeat, taken-for-grated friends…

Thank you.

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P.s. Use this as a writing prompt: who do you think is overdue for gratitude? Even if you don’t express it to them directly, expressing it viscerally can have a rippling effect at later points in your life.

If you want to learn how to not take things personally…

Simply meditate on the times when you did something that another took personally that was completely unintentional, misunderstood, or misconstrued. Times when you:

• Took your anger out on somebody who had nothing to do with what you were angry at.
• Underwent intense periods of growth/ change that made you less available and more distant to those you used to spend time with.
• Expressed an opinion that hurt/offended the person you were sharing it with, when you had a completely different person/ type of person in mind.

I think we’ve all been there.

The all-too-often shared reality we face as humans is that we often act selfishly before we think selflessly. We get consumed in being the center of our own worlds and forget about how our actions might affect the world of others.

The truth is: rarely does anything we do have to do with anybody other than ourselves and how we’re feeling.

So, when somebody does something that feels personal, remember, it most likely has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

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P.s. Have you been taking these posts personally (in a good way)? You can support my ongoing work by getting me a coffee here :)

There are as many different paths in life as there are people—no two aligned in exactly the same way.

Which means it’s only a matter of time before the people here with us diverge from our path and head out onto their unique own—it’s the nature of life.

Until then, we should cherish the time we have together while our paths have merged and start preparing ourselves to smile with deep gratitude when it’s time for our paths to diverge (because of the cherished time we did have together)—no sense in arguing against nature.

Even soulmates will have to one day say, “goodbye.”

But for today, let’s make the time we do have together worth smiling deeply for.

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P.s. I asked: Outside of sleep, eating well, exercise, reading, and writing—what’s ONE thing that helps you perform your best? I hope the answers help. :)

When you are feeling lonely, it’s important to remember that there are MANY people around you who feel exactly the same.

In fact, as ironic as it might sound in today’s hyperconnected world, it’s probably more often the case than not that the people around you are feeling lonely more than they’re not.

That in mind, do for others what you secretly crave is done for you:

• Shoot that text
• Make that call
• Schedule that coffee

Think of what it might mean to you to get that invitation… and be the bearer of that gift to somebody else.

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P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

Other people are not here to:

• Treat you perfectly
• Rave about your work
• Meet your expectations
• Clean up after your messes
• Agree with your every opinion
• Conform to your belief systems
• Celebrate your every step forward in life
• Change their lives so you don’t have to change yours
• Act in a way that aligns with your lifestyle and healing
• Watch closely and respond immediately to your timeline affairs

Realize this and suddenly, life becomes a whole lot less frustrating.

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