My aunt on a grumpy hotel employee:
“Maybe he was just having a bad day. Maybe he had to poop and he couldn’t. You just don’t know.”
My new life philosophy for grumpy people.
I help busy people do inner work.
My aunt on a grumpy hotel employee:
“Maybe he was just having a bad day. Maybe he had to poop and he couldn’t. You just don’t know.”
My new life philosophy for grumpy people.
All pain is real.
Because pain is subjective and is only really experienced by the experiencer.
This is why no one can or should tell you how to feel about your pain.
Only you can be the judge of that.
That said, the intensity of your pain is also only yours to manage.
So, here’s one handy trick that can help deplete pain of its power: stop trying to prove how badly you’ve been hurt.
You have nothing to prove.
And even your best attempts to prove your pain only end up intensifying it.
Better would be to treat pain like the signal it is and respond to that signal deliberately and with compassion.
Much better than catastrophizing it just so that people might believe you that it’s there.
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If I wanted to balance a long stick on just one finger, I would use trial and error.
I would guess and place my finger at a center point, catch it when (if) it tipped, readjust my finger, and repeat until I had it.
If you want to maintain your emotional center, following the same, simple formula might help.
First, get a gauge on which emotional direction you’re tipping. Then, identify the emotional opposite. And, like when you’re trying to balance a long stick on your finger, adjust until you find equilibrium. Some examples:
But, not too much of the opposite, of course, because then you’ll tip in that direction instead.
Having too much of a good thing can cause you to emotionally lose balance all the same.
As Aristotle famously suggested, shoot for the mean between extremes.
Where you’re neither overly sensitive nor senseless, but aligned, aware, and at peace.
Get more bored.
I find that the more I force myself into boredom, the more creative I get.
Conversely, the more distracted and entertained I am, the less creative I get.
When do I get some of my best ideas? While I’m showering, driving, walking, napping, meditating, staring at a blank screen… it’s when my mind is bored and free to wander.
And it’s not even close...
When do I rarely ever get ideas? While I’m working, watching TV, playing a game, having gossip-y type conversation, or otherwise actively engaged in some thought-provoking tasks.
You might think you’re“not the creative type” or that you“lost” your creative touch.
I’m willing to bet you haven’t and that you are—we all have creative energy inside of us.
You’re just not allowing yourself to get bored long enough.
The deepest form of loneliness doesn’t come from being estranged from others.
It comes from being estranged from ourself.
How do we become estranged from ourself?
The same way we might become estranged from others:
The relationship we have with ourself is no different. We must:
When you become a kind and loving friend to yourself, how could you ever truly be lonely?
Most of us will choose a familiar pain over an unknown alternative.
We gravitate towards the familiar because it gives us a false sense of safety.
And so long as we continue to cling to that false sense of safety, we shouldn’t expect to get anything different than the same old, familiar pain. Time and time again.
But, what if, what lies in the unknown isn’t greater pain, but a place where there’s better pain?
What if, it’s precisely in the unknown where the pains of growth, love, and healing lie?