Category: Inner Travel

I’m on a mission to help busy people do inner work.

You know… the kind of work that most busy people skip and ignore because they prioritize outer work instead.

But, the reality is: outer work doesn’t lead to a more fulfilled life—inner work does.

Outer work might lead to money, power, fame… but, inner work is how the feelings we’re actually after are tapped into and cultivated.

Ask yourself: What feeling am I really after in wanting more money (as an example)?

…Is it security? Freedom? Recognition?

…And how can I nurture those feelings in life in spite of copious amounts of money?

There are a million different ways to answer this question and it’s not one I can answer for you. But, here are some thoughts to get you started:

• You don’t need a million dollars to build more security in your life.
• You might have more life freedom with a 50k per year job than a 200k per year job.
• The need for recognition is created out of a lack of self-worth / self-love. No amount of external validation can match the fullness that comes from genuine internal validation.

Your turn…

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P.s. Today I hosted a LIVE talk on Happiness and How It’s A Daily Choice with my friend Tyler Todt—it was one hour of pure gold. Tyler is the real deal and every moment of this chat was packed with insight. Enjoy.

BIG reactions from small happenings—both positive and negative—are events worth exploring (both in yourself and others).

BIG positive reactions (from small happenings) is a sign of emotional maturity—those who have done inner work.

• Finding awe in the mundane
• Expressing deep gratitude for small efforts
• Sitting joyfully for no specific reason at all

BIG negative reactions (from small happenings) is a sign of emotional immaturity—those who are avoiding inner work.

• Having a complete meltdown over a petty comment
• Cultivating hate/resentment over silly, honest mistakes
• Erupting in anger over a trivial gesture

If you find yourself having a disproportionately large reaction to something small… use it as an opportunity to explore your inner workings. Challenge yourself to set the huge reaction aside (if negative) and channel your inner curiosity instead.

Remember: big reactions don’t just come from nowhere.

They must stem from some deeper rooted source. The huge reactions, in many cases, are just distractions and coverups for what’s trying to remain unseen and in the background. But, the longer you ignore it (and allow the distractions to distract you), the worse it’ll get.

Because things don’t get better until you get better, eh?

Questions worth asking yourself when a disproportionate reaction arises:

• Where is this reaction really coming from (i.e. is this anger or grief)?
• What emotion/experience/idea is really underneath this big reaction (i.e. is this intense present-moment gratitude coming from a near-death experience)?
• Why is this reaction being triggered now, at this time, in this way (i.e. what can I learn from this instance that will help me better address future, similar instances)?