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Category: Self-Limiting Beliefs

Becoming An Influencer

Published on April 13, 2022

Leadership is not something that’s reserved for certain people with certain titles in certain positions.

Leadership is influence. Period.

And we aren’t capable of interacting with people without influencing them in some way, shape, or form (for better and for worse).

Which means, if you interact with people, you’re a leader (yes, you).

If you don’t see yourself as a leader, maybe now is a good time to start.

Because maybe it’s this limiting belief that you’re not a leader that’s precisely what’s holding you back from leveling up in your life.

Because higher positions of leadership (influence) aren’t reserved for those who shrink to the roles they’re currently in.

Higher positions of leadership are reserved for those who outgrow their smaller roles.

The Imposter Syndrome Antidote

Published on March 27, 2022

Imposter syndrome is the byproduct of being hyper comparative.

For you can only feel like an imposter if you have other non-imposters to compare yourself against.

The antidote then is to become non-comparative and hyper focused on building up the skills within the identity you want to not feel like an imposter in.

So, rather than compare yourself to the most skilled in your field, focus exclusively on developing the skills of the craft.

Because the cure for what feels like a lack of identity is the accumulation of more actions of someone who would hold that identity. Until eventually, you do it so much that you (finally) become a non-imposter.

This is all to say, if you want to embody the identity of a writer (and not feel like an imposter when you write) just freaking write more—and stop comparing your writing to the greats.

Skills Pretending To Be Attitudes

Published on February 7, 2022
  • Creative / Un-creative
  • Courageous / Shy
  • Disciplined / Undisciplined
  • Trustworthy / Deceitful
  • Open-minded / Closed-minded
  • Vulnerable / Invulnerable

Don’t get it twisted.

What most people think of as innate attitudes are very much so learned skills.

There’s More To You

Published on December 13, 2021

It never ceases to amaze me how much we can learn from ourselves when we actually take the time to sit and clearly write the content of our minds.

We have an entire lifetime of experience, have processed an unfathomable amount of raw information, and have one of the most powerful computers synthesizing it all 24/7.

Don’t undermine yourself. Don’t sell yourself short. Don’t underestimate your abilities.

There’s more to you than you think.

Talking, Edited

Published on December 8, 2021

Writers block is a real problem for many people. But, talkers block? It isn’t even a thing.

Well, what is writing but talking, edited?

If you try to turn your writing into something that sounds completely foreign to how you talk—of course it’s going to be a real problem.

You’re trying to write down words in a way you’d never usually use them.

Don’t do that.

Write how you talk.

Then, after you’ve said all that you can think to say—edit. Make it better. Cut out the fluff. Reorganize what you said for clarity. Give your trains of thought some tracks.

Authenticity is what makes great writing great—not fancy words and complex grammar application.

Commit to being more yourself in your writing and suddenly, writers block disappears.

Because what’s blocking you from writing isn’t the words you could say (I’m sure there’s plenty you could say about any given topic), it’s the pseudo-persona you’re trying to embody when it comes time to write.

You Aren’t Doing Negative Self-Talk Right.

Published on November 22, 2021

Game changer: add “up until now…” to any and all negative self-talk.

  • [Up until now] I’m lazy and gross.
  • [Up until now] My self-control sucks.
  • [Up until now] I have no idea what I’m doing with my life.

Because now, that version of you is in the past.

Negative self-talk might come from a seemingly inevitable negative reality, but the only thing inevitable is your continued negative reality if you don’t change how you talk to yourself.

You will never outperform your self-image.

Now is as good of a time as any to change it.