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Category: Self-Limiting Beliefs

Dance Uncaringly

Published on September 10, 2022

The music was banging. The vibes were insane. Seemingly everybody was entranced and moving hypnotically.

…And what was I doing? Hesitating and looking on from the edge.

This was one the first, important realizations I had while at Burning Man.

For some reason or another (or for many reasons), I was confronted with a level of self-consciousness that I didn’t realize I had.

I was so consumed thinking about what everybody else thought of me and how I danced that I resisted dancing at all—even in the midst of complete and total strangers who I’d likely never see again!

This certainly wasn’t an innate belief and was something I must’ve (mistakingly) learned along the way. Maybe from comparisonism, a comment from a person in the past, a story I was telling myself about how I had to be or act… or a combination of all of the above.

It was only after I confronted this hesitation, sat with it for a few minutes, and unpacked the feeling in full that I was finally able to let it go.

“What the hell are you doing thinking so much?!” I thought.

And I locked my bike, duck taped my ego’s mouth, and let my body do whatever the hell it wanted as I surrendered to the pull of the bass and sway of the crowd.

P.s. I’ll be sharing pictures from Burning man on my IG. The first has finally been posted. More to come :)

Burning Away Everything You Know

Published on September 8, 2022

If you burned away everything you knew about yourself… what would remain?

This was one of the most remarkable questions I was asked while at Burning Man.

Worth reiterating: if everything I knew about myself…

  • my past experiences
  • my relationships
  • my occupation
  • my education
  • my joy/pain

…was burned away—what would I have left inside?

Before you read my answer, I encourage you to pause here and think about how you would answer this question…

Go ahead, I’ll still be here when you’re done…

The answer I came up with (which didn’t come quickly or easily) was everything I had when I was born:

  • my curiosity
  • my liveliness
  • my innocence
  • my immediacy
  • my compassion

Which made me think: a lot of what we carry with us in identity/ experience/ education is worth burning.

Not everything, of course, because there is a lot in identity/ experience/ and education that we carry that’s worth protecting.

But, there’s a lot that extinguishes our curiosity; deadens our liveliness; contaminates our innocence; removes our immediacy; and kills our compassion.

And that, is where the real inner work begins.

Not in trying to add to what’s already inside… but in working to subtract—to burn away—everything that’s corrupting what’s already there.

How would you answer this question? I’d love to hear. Simply send a reply :)

Morning Hours vs. Evening Hours

Published on August 25, 2022

A belief I’ve recently identified that’s limiting me:

My brain: “11pm/12pm bed time… same thing”

Also my brain: “If I could just wake up at 7am instead of 8am, my day would go 100% smoother.”

Point being, if I can keep the importance of an hour in my mind at night—then I get to take back a crucial hour of my day in the morning.

…Because according to my body, 8 hours of sleep is non-negotiable.

And by 11pm at night, there’s really nothing I’m going to do that won’t be done better at 7am the next day.

Worth reflecting on for yourself: what’s a belief you’re holding on to that’s limiting you?

P.s. I’ll be going to Burning Man this week! If you enjoy these daily posts, you can send a little love via coffee here. I could definitely use the caffeine for this partially-insane experience. ;)

Unlearning Time

Published on August 12, 2022

Just as you might make time for learning…

So, too, should you make time for unlearning.

Adding knowledge is undoubtedly helpful…

But removing limiting beliefs and toxic thought patterns is liberating.

The Self-Belief Producing Business

Published on August 4, 2022

It’s hard to take action of any kind when you don’t believe in yourself.

Just like it’s hard to start a business of any kind when you don’t have the resources yourself.

One strategy that has helped countless people start their businesses, however, is borrowing resources from others (like a bank) and paying them back later.

We can do the same thing with belief.

We can borrow belief from others, like a loan of sorts, that gives us the boost we need to take the action; to get the results (and hopefully successes); to build the confidence; to start the self-belief generating process on our own.

The absolute key to doing this is to surround ourselves with people who believe in the human potential. Growth-minded individuals who know that with alignment, action, effort, guidance, and reflection—great things are possible (no matter how inept a person might seem). People who will be there for us in victory AND defeat—because defeat is inevitable on the journey upward and teaches us lessons that victory never could.

Find your people and use their belief in you (or the human spirit) until you’re able to create your own self-sustaining self-belief producing business.

Then, pay off your loan (with gratitude and belief back into others), continue on the path, and let your belief “profits” give you the inner resources you need to chase whole-heartedly your wildest dreams.

I sip on coffee while I write these. If you enjoy these posts, you can support my future work by supplying me with one of my next cups of joe here. ☕️

What higher purpose does this serve?

Published on July 22, 2022

If it doesn’t—stop doing it.

  • Arguing for your limits?
  • Dwelling on what can’t be changed?
  • Hiding deep in a comfort zone hole?
  • Spending time with energy vampires?
  • Spewing hate/ anger/ disrespect/ toxicity/ blame?

…There just is no place for things like this in a life that lasts but a blink across the span of time.

Rise above the diminishing behaviors. Make your blink a damn good one.

Act Your Age [Poem]

Published on June 17, 2022 
The spirit has no age
And yet is shackled
To the age we tell it to act

From the people who tell it to us
From the people who told it to them
From the people who made it up

The spirit has no age
Let it roam free
To be as it may—

Age-free and un-trapped.