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Category: Perception Is Reality

The Dialogue In Your Head

The one you have about yourself…
and who you are…
what you went through…
what you stand for…
who’s on your side…
who isn’t…
your worth…
your value…
your abilities…
your inabilities…
your cans…
your can’t’s…

Is just that…
dialogue.

And the thing about dialogue
is it can be edited…
rewritten…
updated…
expanded upon…
improved…
made more clear…

Choosing not to do this is exactly that:
a choice.

And choosing to act in accordance with an outdated…
demeaning…
belittling…
restrictive…
subdued…
incomplete…

script

…seems like a silly choice to mentally agree to
…to me.

What Do You See When You Look Outside?

At a recent weekly meeting, my boss asked my associates and I what we did first thing that morning.

Two of them said let their dog outside.

He asked them what they saw… they said, in not so few words, pee and poop.

He proceeded to tell us that when he looked outside… for whatever reason that morning… he was completely captivated by the trees… and the way they were swaying… and the beauty of the snow and how it blanketed the early morning neighborhood.

They all probably opened their door to an almost identical snowy scene.

…But couldn’t have seen things more differently.

You Realize You Don’t See With Your Eyes, Right?

“Most people walk the earth unaware that they are not seeing with their eyes. Instead, they are seeing with their emotions, and often these emotions are just the echoes of their past hurts.

Yung Pueblo

You and I can live the same day—objectively. But subjectively? We’ll always interpret and internalize things differently—regardless of how identical our days are. Why? Because as is mentioned above: we don’t live from our eyes… we live from our emotions.

You and I might both see a roof over our head, the sun peaking in its head from our bedroom window, and a loved one sleeping besides us as we open our eyes in the morning. Yet to one, roof might equate to shelter, safety, and warmth… and to another it might equate to mortgage due, repairs needed, and work. With the sun, one might see a beautiful day ahead… while the other might see missed morning routine and late. With loved ones by our side, one might see blessed companionship whereas the other might see constant fighting and drama.

This is why, from a visual outside-looking-in perspective, a person can seem to have “it all” and yet, live miserably… while another can seem to have barely anything at all and live joyfully.

The path to getting ahead in life has little to do with what the eyes can see.

The path to getting ahead in life has everything to do with what our emotions can see. And how do we get our emotions to see things differently? With more gratitude? More joyfully? The same way you would try to teach your son or daughter… with time, energy, and effort—except focused within.

Post Show Depression

After a really good music show, some describe the feeling after as a crash—a drastic come down back to reality—even as post show depression.

Because when you’re at a really good music show, you’re not attached to reality as you know it. You’re somewhere else. Somewhere transported, somewhere high above, somewhere freeing and loved filled…

But as I heard someone describe it today… it doesn’t have to be a crash followed by depression… it can be something we gracefully carry back down with us and intentionally integrate into our reality as we now know it.

Because being at a really good music show isn’t a detachment from reality—it is reality. And what’s happening there can happen elsewhere, too. We just have to learn how to carry that updated understanding of reality with us.

I Was Here [Poem]

I took a picture
Of a mountain today
I don’t know why

To capture permanently
Light rendered
Off converged rock

To share socially
Document something
Get likes, impress, hype myself up 

Or maybe because
Everybody else was
And looking was pressured; timed

“Can you get the whole mountain, please?”
“Try one the other way.”
“Ew, the angle—get another shot.”

What does this mountain mean to me?
Will it ever mean anything to me?
…Is this even for me?

I don’t know why
I took a picture
Of a mountain today

But I guess I’ll leave it
Maybe one day I’ll remember
That at the very least

…I was here.


P.s. You can read my other poems here.

It Could Be Worse

Boyyyyy… could it be worse.

But, you already know this… Here’s why I bring it up: you know that expression, “A dollar saved is a dollar earned”?

Think about your life situation in a similar lens: “A worse situation avoided is a better situation earned.”

Because when things are rough… sometimes the only thing we can control is our perspective… and if you can imagine all of the ways your situation could’ve been worse… and in fact, isn’t… then maybe—just maybe—it’ll help you make your situation feel better.

Because when you feel better—you’ll act and perform better.

…And that’s the first step towards actually making things better.

Good luck.

IRL Video Games

I was reminded yesterday of where all the time came from that was required to build my quote website

…And it came from all of the time I might’ve otherwise played video games.

See, I had two experiences with video games that essentially made me quit cold turkey. One was from an inception-like experience where I played for 16+ hours straight and got stuck in a nightmare that night for what felt like a year. The second was when I saw a stat tracker that said I had been playing this other game for 13+ days in total time.

After that, I recommitted this freshly available time into the creative act of building MoveMe Quotes.

“…And so you worked full time and then came home and kept working some more, huh?” …Is what this person asked.

But, that’s not how it felt at all.

Building this website was like a video game in itself. I was trying to create this beautiful user experience that felt like I was building a home on SIMS or an amusement park on Roller Coaster Tycoon.

I was trying to maximize my organic marketing and SEO exposure to build an army of dedicated followers—like if I was playing Dynasty Warriors or Age Of Empires.

I was selling digital products and even built a merch store to offset the costs of running this popular website and maybe even make a profit—like if I was playing any business oriented game like Lemonade Tycoon.

The point is, I wasn’t working: I was just playing a different game—one that was IRL oriented.

…And maybe there’s a similar perspective you can adopt, too?