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Category: Thinking Clearly

The Magic Of Perspective

Yesterday, my hometown got 18 inches of snow.

All at once.

And when I looked out the window—all I saw was work.

But, when I looked out the window later that day, I saw a boy across the street jumping and playing in it.

And I didn’t see work anymore.

I saw magic.

Sacrificing Sleep To Gain Time

Sacrificing sleep to “gain” time usually ends up in more time lost than is ever gained.

Sure, you might bank an extra hour when you get 7 hours of sleep instead of 8, but what isn’t considered as readily is the time lost when trying to make up for the side-effects of sleep deprivation.

When you add up all of the time spent taking excessive (caffeine) breaks, complaining about being tired (both to others and in your own head), and trying to chop down the tree of your work with a dull axe—the mismatch can be quite eye-opening.

When asked what time she wakes up every morning, founder of The Marginalian (formerly Brain Pickings) and absolute legend in the writing world, Maria Popova said “Exactly 8 hours after I went to bed.”

She went on to explain that the sloth and mental cloudiness that comes from suboptimal sleep simply can’t be made up during the day in caffeine or whatever else. The bottom line for her is that she always produces higher quality work in a more efficient time when she gets proper rest.

It’s the adding of time to sleep that can actually result in more time saved in the end.

While this isn’t exactly breaking news, here’s my reality: I’ve been trying to bank an extra hour or two by sleeping for 6 or 7 hours instead of 8 for years. And to no avail.

My body almost always forces me to stay in bed for 8. It’s stubborn as hell. Or maybe, I’m the one who is stubborn as hell and am finally starting to hear my body.

Lost At Sea

If your ability to create (or do) is dependent on your need for inspiration, you’ll never fulfill your potential—especially not in today’s world.

Here’s why: distraction is the enemy of inspiration.

And if I had to pick just one word to describe the modern age we’re living in, I’d probably choose: “Distracted.”

Prior to the information explosion that came with the internet, modern gadgets, and social media—”waiting around” for inspiration was actually probably a great strategy.

Because here’s what I know about inspiration: it comes when I’m undistracted. It’s when I’m showering, staring at blank screens, meditating, walking my dog, driving, and/or sitting bored.

And “waiting around” prior to the information age probably consisted mostly of the things on that list. Today, however, “waiting around” consists mostly of… consuming distractions.

It never ceases to amaze me how quick I am to pull out my phone when I sit down in a public place alone—like when I’m waiting for my dinner party to arrive or when I’m waiting at the doctor’s office. The urge is almost unbearable.

And not just for me, but for the other phone-scrollers in the room. Or so it feels.

We’re addicted.

And because we’re addicted to distraction, we’re equally in conflict with inspiration.

This isn’t to say that we won’t get inspiration from the ocean of information that we consume—because we certainly may.

It is to say, however, that it isn’t being properly utilized. We need to do a better job of coming out of the ocean to regroup, reorganize, and reflect upon our findings.

Otherwise, we’ll continue flapping around, following treasure signs, and getting more and more lost at sea.

Today Marks 2 Years

That means I’ve been writing daily for around 730 days.

Damn.

Here’s the thing: 730 days ago my daily writing streak was zero.

And there were plenty of people who had streaks much larger than 730.

Had I compared my 0 to their 1,095 or 1,825 or 3,650—I probably wouldn’t have started.

And what a damn shame that would’ve been.

I’m proud of 730 and feel like daily writing has been one of the best habits I have ever built into my life.

And I don’t plan on stopping any time soon.

What’s the trick?

Don’t compare your 0 to my or anybody else’s number.

Just write today.

Then, just write again today—when tomorrow comes.

And learn how to enjoy the act of daily writing (or whatever else it is you might be committing to).

Because if you don’t enjoy doing it—I can almost guarantee you won’t make it 730. Or any other big number.

This doesn’t mean it has to be fun, per se.

Because writing is damn hard.

And draining.

And frustrating.

And nerve-wracking.

And frustrating.

And draining.

And hard.

…But, it’s meaningful. And that’s where the real enjoyment comes from.

If you only ever do what’s fun or pleasurable, it’s very likely that you’ll miss out on meaning.

Because meaning comes from doing what’s hard. And when you do what’s hard (and meaningful to you) every day…?!

The long-term result is an ever-growing mountain of meaning.

My advice?

Don’t do it for any other reason that to make your future self proud.

And start today.

Two (More) Lessons From 2021

Here’s my biggest lesson from 2021.


#1: Shorter doesn’t mean less than

In 2020, I started writing daily.

Being the first time I was experimenting with the identity of “writer,” I felt an overbearing need to prove myself.

So, I tried to make up for a lack of experience with a length in writing—and my pieces were loooooong. Much longer than they needed to be and much longer than any audience would want to read daily.

In 2021, with my transition to Twitter, I learned how to be concise.

I learned how to take out fluff, be more direct, be more authentic, be more confident, and how to pack a punch with words.

I learned how shorter reduced the barriers for readers and actually opened more doors rather than closed them.

And it’s through this lesson that this very blog was birthed. With a cap of 280 words, punchy has become my focus.


#2: Inner Travel > Outer Travel

Without even realizing it, most people use outer travel as a means to force inner travel.

But, when you learn how to conduct inner travel on a regular basis, you are no longer limited to expensive flights, convenient timing, and dog-sitter availability.

Traveling, suddenly, becomes free, accessible, and easily timed.

Because ultimately, what we’re after isn’t big mountains, but an experience of awe; not deep oceans, but an experience of vastness; not sunny and seventy beaches, but relaxation; not exotic destinations, but rich experiences.

It’s feelings that we’re after—not places.

And with access to the internet, books, communities, and distraction-free spaces—we can learn how to bring forth those feelings on our own—no forcing required.

My Biggest Lesson From 2021

Control your information feeds to control your future.

What goes in is what will, eventually, come back out. And what comes out is what will determine how your future plays out.

Because we can’t control what happens to us, but we can absolutely control what comes out of us when things do happen. And if we want things to come out that are going to keep us moving forward, then we need to take the time required now to fill our minds with the best forward-moving information we can collect.

Not only does this mean less passive entertainment, news, and mind-numbing tasks (and more books, podcasts, and art)—it means curating your media feeds and training social media sites to only show you high-quality information.

One of the most important actions I took in 2021 that helped me significantly improve my future (my today) was shifting focus from Instagram to Twitter.

Instagram became a toxic place for me that was filled with images and videos of people in picture-perfect shape, living unbelievable lifestyles, and flaunting things that my ego craved.

It became a platform on which I would compare myself to everybody else—which is the root of all unhappiness. Twitter was like a breath of fresh air.

With its mind-first focus, it was like I was able to connect directly with people’s thoughts and our brains were able to vibe before we ever caught a glimpse of each other’s highlight reels.

My bottom line biggest takeaway is this: remove any and all comparison triggers; control your information feeds; immerse your mind in an ocean of insight—and watch as your future becomes yours.


Here are two (more) lessons from 2021.

Breaking Ceilings

Feel like you’ve reached a ceiling?

Rather than trying to push upwards, try digging downwards.

For the height of your ceiling is directly dependent on the depth of your foundation.