“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
Dr. Seuss
To which I would change to:
Cry if you feel to, smile at the wholeness of what happened.
Not as catchy, I admit. But, worth considering.
Telling yourself not to cry—to not acknowledge the weight of a hard situation is to reject a key component of any given experience.
Only focusing on the smiles will limit depth. Only focusing on depth will limit smiles. It’s the whole experience—the entirety of the human experience—that we should be after.
Allow yourself to flow freely between both—and all.