Not having it all figured out is an excellent place to come from when connecting with people.
Because here’s the thing: neither does anybody else.
Too many people forget this.
Figuring things out together is a magnet for connection.
It allows for reciprocity. It allows for synergy and exchange. It allows for healing and growth.
And, what’s more, is that it will help you figure things out faster than trying (waiting) alone ever will.
The more you try to control something, the more it controls you.
The more you try to control someone, the more they control you.
The more you try to control in life, the more it all will control you.
The road to freedom has less to do with control and more to do with letting go.
If you want more freedom, rather than holding tightly to more, unclasp your grip and think about how you can hold on to less.
Observing—even learning from—other people’s mistakes can illuminate a path forward for you.
But, having your path illuminated is much different than trudging through the darkness yourself.
Use both to keep moving forward, but don’t expect one to act as a substitute for the other.
Some lessons can only be learned in the dark. And some roads are too hazardous to travel without light.
It took us 13.8 billion years to get to today.
And you’re gonna waste it on…?
Complaining? Overthinking? Hating?
The universe is offended.
Let’s use this small slice of eternity in the most grateful, thoughtful, loving way(s) we can.
No waste.
With vulnerability and authenticity, arguments aren’t needed—genuine connection happens seamlessly.
When walls are built around emotions and facades cover feelings, arguments act as the storms that tear down those “fronts” to finally expose what’s fortified underneath:
Vulnerability and authenticity.
Where’s the best place to make a pond ripple?
Answer: there isn’t one.
Where’s the best place to make a difference?
Answer: there isn’t one.
Right where you are is as good as any.
Just start turning your ideas into actions and toss them into the pond.
The ripples will follow.
While working out, I think about how I don’t want to workout.
When I don’t workout, I think about how I should’ve worked out.
The first burns ~60 minutes of thinking from my day.
The latter burns closer to ~600 minutes.
Get it?
Now go get done what you know needs to get done.
With the possibility of a 10x return on your investment, you’d be crazy not to.