It seems to me like sitting and just being with one singular person or task or thought is becoming increasingly difficult for the modern person.
And it’s because we’re increasingly normalizing “multi-tasking,” distracted presence, and boundary-less access.
If we want to feel more fulfilled, we need to do better at filling our moments with undivided attention, energy, and effort. It’s the split attention, energy, and effort that always leaves us feeling unfulfilled, isn’t it?
Think about the days when you’re brushing your teeth while putting clothes on, checking emails at red lights, scrolling through socials while in work meetings, taking business calls while chauffeuring the kids, watching the restaurant TVs while eating out with family…
It’s all so scatterbrained and mismatched!
Of course we feel unfulfilled at the end of our days.
What we need to do is try to normalize the opposite:
- Just brushing our teeth and nothing else.
- Just getting dressed and nothing else.
- Just driving our car and nothing else.
- Just checking emails and nothing else.
- Just having business meetings and nothing else.
- Just chauffeuring the kids and nothing else.
- Just eating dinner with the fam and nothing else.
- Just having a conversation and nothing else.
- Just making a phone call and nothing else.
- Just making love and nothing else.
- Just sending a text and nothing else.
- Just exercising and nothing else.
- Just reading and nothing else.
- Just sitting in cue lines and nothing else.
- Just walking and nothing else.
- Just being and nothing else.
It’s unbelievable how simple it all is.
…And yet, it’s one of the hardest things for the modern person to do.