Nobody sets out to lose.
Winning is—in some way/shape/or form—the goal for all of us.
Ironically enough, not winning is often the best means to winning.
It challenges us, humbles us, evokes curiosity, and introduces us to grit—if we channel it.
If we don’t, not winning can lead to discouragement, self-doubt, and result in surrender.
And what most people will say with this insight is: never surrender; persevere; don’t give up; channel losses into fuel; ignore self-doubt etc.
Worth considering, however: if you want to start winning more, maybe the trick isn’t to force yourself to ignore feelings of discouragement, self-doubt, and surrender.
Maybe the trick to winning more is to define for yourself a game where the natural byproduct of “not winning” is humility, curiosity, and grit.
Because what you need to always consider is that you may be playing the wrong game.
When you align your aptitudes, abilities, and interests with the right type of challenge/ game, the question of “how can I motivate myself to keep going” dissolves.
And the question that quickly appears in its place is “how can I stop myself from playing this game so much so that I can eat food, interact with humans, and get more sleep.”