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Published on January 17, 2022

With exercise: you get out what you put in.

With learning: you get out what you put in.

With relationships: you get out what you put in.

If you don’t feel like you’re getting enough out, try putting more in.

Seeing With First Time Eyes

Published on January 15, 2022

“Mom we’re flying!”

—said the little girl sitting behind me on her first plane ride ever.

This being the umpteenth time I’ve flown, I opted to try and get extra sleep.

But, with that prompt, I opened my eyes and thought to myself…

Damn. We’re flying.

Mind Seeds

Published on January 14, 2022

You’re much more likely to grow a tree by planting seeds than you are just waiting for the seeds to plant themselves.

The same is true for growing people.

You’re much more likely to inspire growth in people by planting mind seeds than you are waiting for the seeds to plant themselves.

Digital Age Discipline

Published on January 13, 2022

The ones who get ahead in the digital age are the ones who know how to discipline themselves with their screens.

These are the people who:

  • Use silent or “Do Not Disturb” mode when sleeping, when spending quality time with people, or when doing deep work.
  • Know how to abstain from constantly checking said phone when it’s on silent/ “Do Not Disturb” mode.
  • Know that eyes communicate priority and know how to look away from screens and into the window of another person’s soul.
  • Understand that turning off any and all unnecessary notifications is key to screen independence and recovering from “ding” addiction.
  • Know how to create restraints on screen time and how to follow them when time is up.

Isn’t it interesting how in the age of information, so many around us still seem to be so lost?

Like how so much of what people are focused on is backwards from what they actually should be focused on?

It all boils down to a priorities imbalance.

What we have to recognize is:

  • A full night of sleep is far superior to a night full of intermittent information gathering.
  • A conversation with undivided attention is exponentially better than a divided one.
  • An uninterrupted block of time for deep work is far more productive than double the time spent juggling deep work with notification checking, call answering, and timeline refreshing.

The urge is to do what’s urgent.

The key to getting ahead is to discipline yourself against that urge and do what’s important instead.

Not In A Hurry

Published on January 5, 2022

Not in a hurry is an excellent sign of being committed to the process.

Being in a rush is an excellent sign of being committed to the destination.

Being committed to the destination without being committed to the process is an oxymoron of sorts. Because arriving to a destination isn’t possible without undergoing the process.

Which is precisely why so many people fail to arrive at their destinations.

They’re in a rush. They’re forcing things along. They’re definitely in a hurry.

The general goal seems to be to arrive without having to go through the work of traveling.

Which, of course, isn’t how arriving works.

What if, instead of trying to rush, force, hack, hurry, or expedite your way to a far and away destination—you found ways to make the goal more about enjoying the process?

Because the thing about rushing is that it implies you don’t want to be where you are or doing what you’re doing. It implies you’d rather be somewhere else (in a future fantasy scenario).

And the reality is, we’re going to spend the sweeping majority of our time traveling and only but a micro-fraction of it arriving. And to spend anything more than a moment in a state of misery, contempt, or hate is wasteful—let alone a few years (or *gulp* decades).

And so the question you should ask yourself is: am I enjoying the pace of my process or am I actually just rushing to arrive?

Because being in a rush might counterintuitively prove to be far more wasteful than not being in a hurry after all.