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Category: Living Well

End Before You’re Done

Being “done” signifies completion.

And while this isn’t inherently bad… when it comes to the things we can never really “complete”—maybe this isn’t exactly good either.

Think about health, introspection, and connection.

These things are never “completed.”

And so if we can teach ourselves to “end” before we’re all the way “done”—we’ll essentially be learning how to create open loops that our mind might want to “close” in the future.

Some examples:

  • For exercise: Finish when you’re 70% fatigued. Leave unfinished business at the gym. Keep that hunger for continued growth alive vs. completely exhausting yourself to a miserable pulp.
  • For writing: Leave some ideas unexplored. I use the notes app to capture ideas whenever I have them and now have well over 100 unexplored ideas. This gives me launch points for each of my future writing sessions vs. having to stare at a blank screen each time because I finished exploring all of them at the last one.
  • For conversation: Don’t exhaust all of your questions and curiosities. Leave some room for mystery and exploration for the next conversation or for follow up messages. A conversation a little too short is probably better than a conversation that went a little too long.

When you create an open-ended process for the things that compound in value over time, you give your future self a hat-tip that makes the start of the next session easier.

And anything that makes starting easier should always be considered.

What’s Missing?

Outside of material items, what are you missing from your life?

Take a minute to really think about it.

…What are you missing?

Now… are you missing it because others aren’t giving it to you or because you aren’t giving it to yourself?

In most cases, what we feel like we’re missing has nothing to do with other people.


P.s. In case you missed it, here’s the replay of the LIVE chat I hosted today on Twitter about Embracing Adversity. My co-host had an incredible story and there were a ton of gems shared. Start at the 5 minute mark.

Back To Zero

Before reading this, do a body scan and progressively relax one muscle at a time starting with your forehead and ending with your toes—get your body back to zero percent unnecessary tension.

When done, how much tension would you say you released that you didn’t even realize you were holding?

Well, that tension is the equivalent of you pushing the gas in your parked car.

Multiply that over the course of an entire day—and you can imagine how much energy is being wasted.

The challenge is that tension is often the default, unconscious state—we don’t even realize we’re tensing up when we do!

Go ahead and do another body scan and see how much tension already came back.

…This is why we have to make relaxing a conscious effort.

Both for energy efficiency and bodily health. Tense muscles become brittle—and brittle is prone to injury and disease. Relaxed muscles are flexible—and flexible is healthy and resilient.

Doing a progressive relaxation body scan—regularly—is an excellent strategy.

How can we do this? Here are 3 ideas to get you started:

  1. Set a timer: every time the timer goes off, do a body scan and get back to zero.
  2. Use a trigger: every time your phone rings or buzzes, do a body scan and get back to zero.
  3. Time-block: After each meal of the day, do a body scan and get back to zero.

The goal, like any other habitual practice, is to move relaxed from conscious to unconscious so it becomes more and more our default state.


P.s. In case you missed it, here’s the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week.

Morning Is Important

You might not think that what you did this morning was important… but it was.

In the same way that sharpening the saw before you cut the tree is…

Or in how warming up and stretching before intense exercise is…

Or in how planning before acting is…

Try and cut the tree, do intense exercise, or act without the ideal precursor and in each case—the task will suffer.

So, too, will your day.

When you get the start of your day right—you get to cut through the rest of the day with a sharpened mind, a loose and flexible body, and a clearly defined plan.

Which reminds me… you might not think that what you do at night is important… but it is.

The Life Of Your Dreams

You should wait for someone else to create the life of your dreams for you.

…Ridiculous.

Yet, I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss it as being a belief you don’t—in some way—hold.

  • Are you waiting for your parents to give you their permission or approval?
  • Are you waiting for your boss to give you that raise and those benefits?
  • Are you waiting for some arbitrary opportunity to present itself that’ll sweep you off your feet, take you across the globe, and pay you for breathing?

…Or do you already know what the life of your dreams looks like and are you already building towards that vision each day?

Because if you’re not… how do you think the life of your dreams is going to be realized?

Are you absolutely sure you’re not waiting for someone else to create circumstances that’ll lead to the life of your dreams?

Because if you are… reality check: you will only ever live the life you create for yourself.


P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

Life’s Perfect Seasons

The season you’re in right now—of your life—is perfect.

Just like how winter is the perfect season for bundling up, going sledding, and drinking hot cocoa…

And how summer is the perfect season for swimsuits, beach, and getting your vitamin D on…

Where you are right now… is the perfect place to be. You only have to realize it.

Maybe you’re single, don’t have kids, and work a lot… you could dwell on this or you could see this as the perfect opportunity for spontaneous adventuring and solo tripping.

Maybe you’re in a serious relationship, have kids, and are a stay-at-home parent… you could dwell on this or you could see this as the perfect opportunity for deepening your family’s roots.

Maybe you’re in a “complicated” relationship, the person you’re seeing has a kid, and you have a part-time job… you could dwell on this or you could see this as being the perfect opportunity for introspection and identifying exactly what it is you want (and how you can get it) in life.

Learn to stop seeing the current season you’re in as “wrong/bad/invalid.”

And start asking yourself, “what is this current season I’m in the perfect opportunity for?”

Cursing the current season because you want to be in another is an excellent way to never be happy.

Maybe it’s time we stop trying to control seasons and start embracing the one we’re currently in.


P.s. If this is your first email from me and you joined a while ago… I apologize. There was an email import error I just became aware of. Here’s a backlog of the daily posts you might’ve missed. And welcome to the squad :)

Our World Sucks

Wishing the world was a better place is nice—but not useful.

Complaining about how bad of a place the world is—is the opposite of useful.

Talk is cheap. And what our world needs is far from cheap…

What we need is the good stuff… the gold… what we need is more do-something-about-it.


I asked: What’s ONE thing you’ve either added or subtracted from your life that led to more inner peace? Here are the answers. I hope they help.