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Category: Living Well

The Color Of Actions

Life isn’t only a byproduct of what you do—it’s a byproduct of how you do what you do.

Take writing as an example. A book isn’t only a byproduct of the words that are used.

It’s a byproduct of how those words are arranged; how they are grammatically formatted; and how well they work together to communicate ideas.

If you took all of the words within War And Peace, for example, and rearranged them, changed the grammar, and disregarded the context—one of the all-time greats will be completely lost.

Same exact words. Completely different byproduct.

And so it is with life, too. What you do matters—yes. Just like what words you pick when writing a book matters. But, you can’t ignore the how.

How are you doing what you’re doing? Are you present or elsewhere? Do you care or are you only pretending to care? Are you pacing yourself or sprinting? Are you being true to who you are or are you putting up a front? Are your priorities really straight or are they actually backwards? Are you acting selfishly or selflessly?

The bottom line? Actions matter. But, don’t forget that intent colors actions with signals that are easily perceived by those whom the actions affect.

Asking For Help

Asking questions doesn’t make you a fool; it’s you refusing to become a fool.

Seeking a coach isn’t a sign of incompetence; it’s you refusing to become incompetent.

Talking to a therapist isn’t an admission of poor mental health; it’s you refusing to let your mental health get to a poor state.

Asking for help isn’t you giving up, it’s you refusing to give up.

First, Work Hard.

Work hard to become your best.

Become your best so you can give your best.

Give your best so you can bring out the best in others.

And when you bring out the best in others you’ll want to keep working hard.

The Vicious Circle

We instinctually want what we don’t have.

This is true even for those who already have what we want.

It’s one big circle of everybody wanting everybody else’s stuff.

You want mine; I want yours; we want theirs; they want ours.

Until we decide that what we have is what we want.

It’s only then that we may finally break the vicious circle.

Shortcut To Happiness

No person has the power to satisfy unlimited desire.

Everyone, however, has the power to not desire what they don’t have and thoroughly enjoy what they already do.

Want a shortcut to happiness?

This is it.

Doing What’s Immediately Comfortable

When you lie down for bed and realize you have to go to the bathroom, you have 2 choices:

1. Do what’s immediately uncomfortable and get up to go.

2. Do what’s immediately comfortable and hold it in hope it won’t wake you up later.

Option 2 almost always is a bad idea.

And so it is for most other choices in life that are immediately comfortable.