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Category: Living Well

Reclaiming Wasted Energy

So much energy is wasted every day in limbo.

In that in between space where our temptations and disciplines clash.

In that place where we’re making up our minds; arguing against ourselves; stagnating.

It’s in this state where our energy drains its fastest. And the longer we stay there, the more likely temptation is to win against discipline.

The key to reclaiming our energy is redirecting our energy.

  • Trying to resist temptation? Don’t stare. Don’t engage. Don’t even look if you can help it. Quickly redirect your energy and walk away; open a book; play a podcast.; call a friend or family member; play with your dog—anything that gets you out and away.
  • Trying to improve your state of mind in a toxic environment? Even the best of us can’t override the effects of toxic environments. Trying to do so is futile. You’re better off redirecting your energy out and away from that environment and into a new, healthier, healing one. This goes for work environments, hang out environments, and even family environments.
  • Trying to move on from pain of the past? Actively investigating our past to heal is one thing… lingering aimlessly in the pain is another. Redirect your energy towards your future and away from your past. Hang out with new people. Take on a new project. Build an aligned side hustle business. Building something new is one of the best ways to move on from something old.

If each of us could reclaim even 1% of that energy—that human potential—that’s wasted in limbo and redirect it towards something constructive… I reckon we could build ourselves an entire additional calendar day in our year.

Greater Good

  • Trolling
  • Blaming
  • Criticizing
  • Demeaning
  • Condemning

Will never come close to the overall positive impact that…

  • Accepting responsibility
  • Glorifying goodness
  • Spreading kindness
  • Role modeling
  • Forgiving

…Will have.

We sometimes do the former (consciously and unconsciously) thinking that it’s for a greater good… but, the real greater good comes from doing the latter.


P.s. Want to really change your world? Become a modern day alchemist.

Undoing Our Way To Happiness

Happiness is less about doing and more about undoing.

  • You can play your favorite playlist… but, “undoing” self-consciousness will help more.
  • You can immerse yourself in nature… but, “undoing” co-dependency issues will help more.
  • You can have a spa day… but, “undoing” self-sabotaging thoughts will help more.

How to undo? By doing inner work.

The happiness is there. You just have to “uninvite” the unwelcomed company that’s causing chaos in your mind.

The Best Comfort

Remember this about comfort:

It’s a lot more enjoyable when it’s closely preceded by discomfort.

E.g. Think about the couch after hard exercise or bed after the demanding day.

Comfort minus discomfort leads to a sort of long-term discomfort that’s far more brutal than anything we push ourselves through in the short-term.

Goals for 2023

I find myself thinking a lot about duality lately.

How things are far more gray than they are black-and-white.

Which is why, as we move into the new year, I’m going to focus more on the balancing forces in all that I do in life—so that I may stay more mindfully in the middle of any which extreme.

Some of my initial thoughts:

  • A strong body… with a soft touch.
  • A serious focus… with a playful heart.
  • Concrete boundaries… outlining a warm host.
  • A “stay hard” mindset… that knows how to relax.
  • An uncanny hustle… that knows when to slow down.
  • An indomitable spirit… that knows when to surrender.

What are some of your goals for 2023?

Slow Hustle

Knowing I’m going to die, I hustle to unleash my full potential while I can.

Knowing I’m still alive, I slow down so I don’t miss the life that’s right in front of me.

Somewhere in between the two is a dance.

Knowing this, I practice my two step and slow hustle my way forward at each chance.


P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

4k Visualizations

Don’t just visualize.

Do deep visualizations.

They are not the same practice.

Until you can see in 4k clarity who you want to become, you’ll continue acting in standard definition—i.e. in the same standard manner you always have.

But with 4k clarity, you can start acting in ways your most powerful version would… because you can see, feel, and even hear everything that that version of you does—all the way down to how they move their arm from bed to alarm clock first thing in the morning.

It’s just a matter of bringing that version into focus by upgrading the TV of your mind.

Referencing a 1990’s, box and antenna, blurry-at-best definition screen won’t take you to 4k land.

4k land requires 4k vision.

It’s time to upgrade.