There’s no universal answer. But, if you’re able to:
I’d say you’re doing pretty damn well.
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What letter grade would you give yourself for actually doing the things you say you’re going to do? A-? B? …F?
If you are failing in follow through—in matching your actions to your words—everything in your life will be affected.
Fix this by making smaller promises/ announcements/ goals and remembering not to agree to things you don’t seriously think you’ll be able to do.
Refocus your efforts from trying to capture HUGE word-to-action matchings and start accumulating mountains of small matchings instead. For example, instead of telling yourself that you’re going to lose 30 pounds in 30 days!—tell yourself that you’re going to show up to the gym for 15 of the next 30 days.
The house of trust is built one brick at a time.
The wrecking ball of mistrust slams against those bricks every time you don’t follow through on your word.
Build patiently. Commit consciously. Do everything you can to NOT slam that wrecking ball into your walls. It’s much harder to build than it is to destroy. And until we build a house of trust with ourselves, we won’t have a roof we can house our best lives in.
Exercising regularly is one of the hardest things in the world for some people.
Which is why it’s SO important to not make it any harder than it needs to be.
I will be the first to admit that I take an easy route that ends with me under the bar each day:
…And THEN I’ll get my workout started.
Even after 20 years of working out religiously, the workouts themselves haven’t gotten any easier—I’ve just gotten better at showing up and tricking myself into doing the work.
I learned long ago that wake-up -> bar isn’t the path that works for me. The resistance (misery) eventually becomes too much and leads me to stray from the path. I’m the type that needs to ease myself in. This is what keeps me on the path.
Hard, misery-inducing workouts coupled with misery-inducing steps leading up to the workouts are glorified in today’s world and it’s no wonder regular exercise is so damn hard for so many.
Don’t feel pressured to go this route.
While it’s undoubtedly true that massive action will lead to massive results… it’s the consistent action that’ll lead to the life-changing results.
What I’m ACTUALLY trying to get people to realize when I teach/ train/ coach:
The reward of doing 1 hour of hard work >>>>> 1000 moments of media-based dopamine hits.
So much energy is wasted every day in limbo.
In that in between space where our temptations and disciplines clash.
In that place where we’re making up our minds; arguing against ourselves; stagnating.
It’s in this state where our energy drains its fastest. And the longer we stay there, the more likely temptation is to win against discipline.
The key to reclaiming our energy is redirecting our energy.
If each of us could reclaim even 1% of that energy—that human potential—that’s wasted in limbo and redirect it towards something constructive… I reckon we could build ourselves an entire additional calendar day in our year.