All pain is real.
Because pain is subjective and is only really experienced by the experiencer.
This is why no one can or should tell you how to feel about your pain.
Only you can be the judge of that.
That said, the intensity of your pain is also only yours to manage.
So, here’s one handy trick that can help deplete pain of its power: stop trying to prove how badly you’ve been hurt.
You have nothing to prove.
And even your best attempts to prove your pain only end up intensifying it.
Better would be to treat pain like the signal it is and respond to that signal deliberately and with compassion.
Much better than catastrophizing it just so that people might believe you that it’s there.