Most of what we do every day is work for others, digitally lurk in the background of other people’s lives, and consume other people’s content… all of which provides no meaningful two-way connection to either others or ourselves.
This is why so many of us feel so disconnected in the age of connection.
What brings us closer to people isn’t doing work for them, lurking, or consuming one directional content… what brings us closer to people is:
- Meals spent together
- Rich conversational exchange
- Adventures embarked on together
- Activities/ Hobbies enjoyed together
- Long car rides/ walks in nature together
- Chats at a coffee shop/ by fireside together
- Projects/ art/ problem-solving done together
- And so on…
And what brings us closer to ourselves is everything listed above… only by and for ourselves.
So, if you’re feeling disconnected and lonely, make it a goal to take the initiative on one of the above mentioned endeavors (for both others and for yourself) and continue to do so regularly.
Waiting for others to take the initiative only perpetuates that disconnected feeling and strips you of the control you have over your life situation.
I promise, if you can find ways to add even just one of the above-mentioned ideas into your days or weeks… you’ll slowly, slowly, start to feel more and more connected to this life.
P.s. The next book I’ll be uploading quotes from is Make Your Bed by Admiral William H. McRaven. If you’d like to read along… info, links, and such can be found here ➜