Oftentimes, taking care of others looks a lot like taking care of yourself.
I help busy people do inner work.
The full collection of explorations.
Oftentimes, taking care of others looks a lot like taking care of yourself.
You either win or you lose.
—Eh, we can do better…
You either win or you learn.
—Better. But, not as good as it could be…
You either learn or you don’t learn.
—That feels pretty solid.
Because if you don’t learn when you win you’re doing it wrong.
And learning from failures is talked about so much it’s essentially cliché at this point.
It’s worth remembering that what’s required to maximally squeeze the sweet learning juice from every experience isn’t what’s natural. Reacting emotionally to wins and losses is what’s natural.
Wins lead to celebration parties and losses lead to pity parties—and both tend to distract us from our work (and its improvement).
If maximally learning from every experience is important to us then we need to consistently prioritize a dedicated chunk of time to “juicing” each one.
Time when we can carefully reflect on what went well, what we could’ve done better, and how we can promptly implement our learnings into our lives.
Because the reality is this: experience is not the best teacher—learned from experience is.
If you’re winning and losing and not learning—you’re losing.
If you’re learning and learning and not letting winning and losing discourage or distract you from continuing to try—you’re winning.
The energy you give is the energy you get in return.
…Not always.
Sure, it’s often the case that positive energy begets reciprocated positive energy. And negative energy, negative.
But, what about when an incredibly positive energy attracts the opposite?
Like the type of energy that’s toxic, manipulative, and control-seeking.
Sometimes, people who give off that luscious, positive, radiant energy are the most desired targets of energy sucking negatives.
This is why we must have boundaries.
We have to be ready at all times to filter IN the reciprocated (positive) energy that’s attracted to us while simultaneously filtering OUT the unwelcomed (negative) energy that’s looking to suck the life from us.
Don’t take this lightly either.
Energy is life currency.
Be relentless in protecting it.
Experiences are investments.
Don’t put them in the same category as material purchases.
Material items (that aren’t investments) should be purchased scarcely and with heed—for they often weigh us down and limit our ability to invest.
Experiential investments should be made generously and often—for they become the very foundation of the story of our lives.
…Is being who you truly are.
We are born with hands empty.
As we grow, we pick things up.
The more we hold on to, the slower we go.
Hold on to too much, and we drag to a halt.
We become lighter by letting go.
Letting go of what’s weighing us down.
Letting go of what’s eating us up.
Letting go of what was never ours to carry.
Reclaim access to your complete energy store.
Reinvest in a life where your inner child gets to explore.
A life where you are free.
A life where you are light.
A life where you are empty-handed, quick to move, and open to the possibilities of an abundant world.
This is why we let go.
Not because what we’ve picked up isn’t important.
But because life with hands empty might be more.