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The person who builds their dreams for 2 hours / day will realize that dream 6x faster than the person who builds for 20 minutes / day.
…And ∞ times faster than the person who builds for 0 minutes / day.
Saying this for me as much as anybody else.
Being “done” signifies completion.
And while this isn’t inherently bad… when it comes to the things we can never really “complete”—maybe this isn’t exactly good either.
Think about health, introspection, and connection.
These things are never “completed.”
And so if we can teach ourselves to “end” before we’re all the way “done”—we’ll essentially be learning how to create open loops that our mind might want to “close” in the future.
Some examples:
When you create an open-ended process for the things that compound in value over time, you give your future self a hat-tip that makes the start of the next session easier.
And anything that makes starting easier should always be considered.
Outside of material items, what are you missing from your life?
Take a minute to really think about it.
…What are you missing?
Now… are you missing it because others aren’t giving it to you or because you aren’t giving it to yourself?
In most cases, what we feel like we’re missing has nothing to do with other people.
P.s. In case you missed it, here’s the replay of the LIVE chat I hosted today on Twitter about Embracing Adversity. My co-host had an incredible story and there were a ton of gems shared. Start at the 5 minute mark.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but, who you surround yourself with is NOT limited to real life.
Once I catch wind of somebody who is doing something I’d like to do, talking about something I’d like to know more about, or is just damn interesting…
I surround my mind with their mind in every way I can.
My reality is: some of the most influential people in my life don’t even know I exist.
P.s. I’ll be hosting a LIVE chat on Twitter today (9/22) at 11am EST. The topic is embracing adversity. I’d love to have you join if you’re free/ interested.
Before reading this, do a body scan and progressively relax one muscle at a time starting with your forehead and ending with your toes—get your body back to zero percent unnecessary tension.
When done, how much tension would you say you released that you didn’t even realize you were holding?
Well, that tension is the equivalent of you pushing the gas in your parked car.
Multiply that over the course of an entire day—and you can imagine how much energy is being wasted.
The challenge is that tension is often the default, unconscious state—we don’t even realize we’re tensing up when we do!
Go ahead and do another body scan and see how much tension already came back.
…This is why we have to make relaxing a conscious effort.
Both for energy efficiency and bodily health. Tense muscles become brittle—and brittle is prone to injury and disease. Relaxed muscles are flexible—and flexible is healthy and resilient.
Doing a progressive relaxation body scan—regularly—is an excellent strategy.
How can we do this? Here are 3 ideas to get you started:
The goal, like any other habitual practice, is to move relaxed from conscious to unconscious so it becomes more and more our default state.
P.s. In case you missed it, here’s the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week.
If you want to improve the love you have with another…
Help the other improve the love they have with themself.
Let them have alone time, explore their interests, try new things, create and express freely, learn new skills, go on retreats, do poignant inner work…
You stopping them from doing such tasks is precisely what’s stopping them from being able to love you deeper.
Why? Because each of us can only ever love to the level of our own self-love.
A person’s inability to love another deeper has nothing to do with the other’s worthiness of receiving deeper love.
P.s. I asked “What are you avoiding?” Because it isn’t obvious to me what I might be avoiding. Worth thinking carefully about. Here are other people’s thoughts.