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Do You Ever Wait In Lines?

Published on February 23, 2023

Dear busy person,

I know you don’t have big chunks of time to rest your mind. So for today, try this: Whenever you’re waiting in a line (in a store, bank, or traffic), DON’T allow yourself to use your phone. Use that time to breathe, people watch, relax bodily tension, smile at strangers, and notice—through ALL of your senses—what’s emerging from the surrounding environment. No calls, no texts, no social media… just for today. See what it does for your mind. And if you like it, maybe try it again tomorrow.

Sincerely,

Your inner work person

Dress For The Weather

Published on February 21, 2023

If there’s anything Buffalo, New York teaches you it’s to dress for the weather—not to be weather dependent.

We’ll go from subzero, pneumonia-inducing, blizzard weather to sunny and 70 within the span of a day and STILL get all of our daily tasks done without missing much of a beat.

Those who wait for “sunny and 70” or allow their moods to follow the moods of the weather, outsource control of their power.

The power that allows them to dress for the weather, keep their internal temperature “sunny and 70” regardless of how cold and cloudy it is on the outside, and get on with it.

P.s. I’m on a mission to help busy people do inner work—so that they can live better lives. If these daily pieces have warmed you up in any way, you can warm my cup up here if you feel so inclined :) ☕️

Relaxed Confidence

Published on February 20, 2023

When you learn to relax inside tense moments with other people, you allow yourself to notice things you’d otherwise miss.

Things like ulterior motives (what’s the real driver behind the actions), underlying beliefs (what’s being said that’s usually being protected by formality), hidden character traits (what’s different in people’s actions when tension is present)—all while keeping a heightened sense of awareness of the environment you’re in.

Letting tension tense you up is a mistake.

When you find yourself in a tense environment, practice relaxing by slowing your breathing, dropping your shoulders, relaxing your facial muscles and tongue, and pausing before responding—right to the point where the silence is starting to feel awkward.

Then, respond with clarity; respond with patience; respond with a more complete understanding of the situation—respond with a relaxed confidence that the best leaders and speakers do when inside some of the most tense moments fathomable.

P.s. What To Do When The “Weight Of The World” Is On Your Shoulders.

Mind Weight

Published on February 19, 2023

Thoughts drain energy like movement drains energy.

Anyone who has sat at a desk for an entire day knows. You could have not gotten up once—not have spent a single calorie from physical movement—and still finished feeling like you unloaded an entire house’s worth of furniture from a moving truck that day—by yourself.

Which is simply to say: if your thoughts are rushing, bustling, and heavy—you’re going to tire more quickly.

And so if you want to do more inside your days—or maybe just do the things you’re doing better/ with more alertness and vitality—you have to learn to let go.

…Let go of the arguments you’re no longer having. Let go of the feelings of comparison that are making you feel like you’re not good enough. Let go of the self-limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs that do nothing but add weight to your mind.

In a world that’s obsessed with increasing energy levels through inputs… coffee… espressos… energy bars/ shots/ gummies/ etc… Maybe focusing on lighting your load is where you’ll actually get the greatest results… through meditation… journaling… therapeutic conversation… etc.

P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

Life’s Sunset

Published on February 18, 2023

It isn’t usually until retirement that people look closely at the direction of their life…

And realize, at the sunset of their life, that they’ve gone in a wrong direction (hopefully not).

When you flip that paradigm on its head and slowly inspect your direction now… you get to make the necessary adjustments that’ll minimize (or mitigate) the regret of later.

And you’ll be able to relax as you watch your sunset marvelously paint your life’s sky.

Full Send

Published on February 17, 2023

One of the best feelings in the world is the one that immediately follows a 100%, fully committed effort.

I can’t think of a single time when I’ve regretted doing my absolute best.

But, I can think of countless times when I’ve regretted holding back.