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Change Everything Without Changing Anything

Published on July 28, 2022

Sounds like a contradiction, eh?

Well, with this one ingredient, you can change everything about your day while simultaneously changing nothing about your day.

What’s that ingredient you ask?

Intentionality.

With intention, everything we do changes:

  • Have to go to work? Or get to go to work?
  • Mindlessly watching reels? Or curiously getting content ideas?
  • Rushing through traffic? Or taking a relaxing drive in-between tasks?
  • Speed-reading a book to hit a goal? Or reading carefully with the goal of understanding?
  • Playing a video game to escape emotion? Or playing a video game to rest your mind after a long, productive day?

Sprinkle a little intention into every task of your day and watch how everything changes without even one task being added or subtracted or moved.

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Black-And-White > Gray

Published on July 27, 2022

When it comes to habit change… “black-and-white” rules are much better than “gray” rules.

  • “I don’t drink” hits way different than “I’m trying to drink less.”
  • “I’m vegan” is much clearer than “I eat 100% vegan, 80% of the time.”
  • “No phones in the bedroom” is far more helpful than “I’m cutting back on screen time.”

It’s hard to draw a line in a gradient of gray. And drawing clear lines is what habit change is all about.

My advice is commit 100% to whatever you’re trying to change or change the habit you’re trying to change to something you can commit to 100% of the time.

On Thursday, July 28th, I’ll be hosting a LIVE chat on Twitter on the Art of Stillness—and why/how stillness can help us live better lives. Join me if you’re free/ interested. Details here.

On Being Unapologetically Yourself

Published on July 26, 2022

3 Important things happen when you’re NOT unapologetically yourself:

  1. Inner conflict arises because who you are and how you’re presenting are in opposition.
  2. You attract people into your life who vibe with your mask.
  3. You repel people who don’t vibe with your mask (who might be attracted to your authentic self).

3 Important things happen when you ARE unapologetically yourself:

  1. You get to be your unapologetic self (no masks).
  2. You attract people into your life who vibe with the real you.
  3. People who don’t vibe with you will continue on their way.

3 Important things to remember when you are in the midst of being unapologetically yourself:

  1. Not everyone will like it. Good. The ones who don’t—aren’t your tribe (even if you thought they were). Keep vibing unapologetically. Your real tribe won’t make you apologize for being you.
  2. Not everyone you attract will be good additions to your tribe. You’ll need to keep firm boundaries up against energy vampires, energy manipulators, and toxic types.
  3. Attraction works two ways. Don’t just wait for everybody else to attract to you. Take the initiative and follow the flow of your attractions. Sometimes, being unapologetically yourself involves being quiet, shy, and reserved. The same is true in others. Take more risks and reach out to people who you think you’d vibe really well with. Somebody has to take the initiative—might as well bring the control back into your court and let that somebody be you.

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The Quiet [Poem]

Published on July 25, 2022 
Never fear the quiet
That comes with the climb

While solitude
Might feel lonely

Elevating your mindset
Raising your vibration
Upgrading your standards
Expanding your vision
Advancing your position
Peaking your mountain

All require leaving
Most of the noise behind

Never fear the quiet
That comes with the climb

P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

Who/What Are You *Really* Saying ‘No’ To?

Published on July 24, 2022

Instead of saying “Yes” because you’re worried/ scared/ anxious about saying “No…”

Meditate for a brief moment on ALL of the other opportunities/people you’d be saying “No” to if you said “Yes…”

  • Saying “Yes” to another obligation = Saying “No” to every other task you could be engaging in during that time instead.
  • Saying “Yes” to that social outing you don’t want to go to = Saying “No” to all of the self-care activities you could be doing instead.
  • Saying “Yes” to more time at work = Saying “No” to more time with family, friends, your lover, or yourself.
  • And so on…

This was the advice I needed to hear that (finally) made saying “No” exponentially easier.

I hope it does the same for you.

P.s. Today, I also published Adam Sandler’s Speech from Hustle [2022] “Never Back Down”

Befriending The Ego

Published on July 23, 2022

“The body is the first student of the soul.”

Henry David Thoreau, via MoveMe Quotes

…And the ego is what intercepts the soul’s communication to the body.

If we don’t learn how to befriend the ego—it will always be our enemy.

What makes the ego our enemy is its relentless desire to choose immediate over delayed gratification. The ego wants comfort now. It wants pleasure now. It cares nothing of later.

And it is in this one main desire—to seek immediate pleasure and avoid immediate pain—that our body suffers. Because what’s generally good for us is what involves delayed over immediate gratification.

If we want our body to succeed—the soul’s first student—we need not underestimate the ego and its deceptive, cunning powers. We need to come prepared. Like a parent ready to confront a moody toddler that’s about to choose violence.

We need to keep our beliefs clear; our boundaries enforced; our strategies at the forefront of our mind; our patience overflowing; and our love (not our tolerance) unconditional.

We have to find easy (easier) ways to do the hard things now, so that we can achieve the later outcome of peak overall health that each of our souls want us so badly to achieve.

For more thoughts on the ego, you can browse my collection of 45+ quotes & resources here.

What higher purpose does this serve?

Published on July 22, 2022

If it doesn’t—stop doing it.

  • Arguing for your limits?
  • Dwelling on what can’t be changed?
  • Hiding deep in a comfort zone hole?
  • Spending time with energy vampires?
  • Spewing hate/ anger/ disrespect/ toxicity/ blame?

…There just is no place for things like this in a life that lasts but a blink across the span of time.

Rise above the diminishing behaviors. Make your blink a damn good one.