I really wanted to send an angry text.
I was angry. But, it was also almost 11pm.
And if there’s anything I’ve learned from sending angry texts, it’s that sending them when you’re at peak anger is rarely a good idea.
Do it at or around 11pm and you might as well set up studio speakers on either side of your pillows and blast screamo music all night because that’s what your mind will be doing all night after you hit “send” anyway.
It’s best to send angry texts when you’re calm.
…When the noise of the loudest emotions have been given time to settle and quiet. When the clarity of your thoughts have been given time to emerge. When the tone of your voice has gone from screamo to “I’m just disappointed because…”
Not to mention the fact that right before bed is the point at which you’re the lowest on energy than at any other point throughout the day and angry conversations likely require more energy than any other conversation you’ve had up until that point.
Better might be to just leave it alone for the night.
…To grab a book and get lost in the life of another.
…To read until your eyes unwillingly shut, to get as good of a sleep as you’re able, and to revisit the situation in the morning when you’re seeing things afresh and have renewed energy to engage in complicated matters like anger.
Heck… what you might even realize is that the text isn’t worth sending at all because your inner peace is better than most of the replies you could ever hope to get from an angry text anyway.