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Month: October 2024

Say Something Nice

Published on October 3, 2024

When I asked two of my co-workers (whom I have weekly meetings with) if there was anything they’d like to add to the meeting minutes or general structure of how we meet… one of them said, “I think we should say something nice to each other…” in a half-joking, mostly serious kind of way.

And you know what…

We’ve been doing it ever since and I think it’s one of the best overall sections of the meeting. And I don’t just mean this in a silly kind of way… I mean this in a connection-forming, bond-deepening, mood-boosting-which-mood-boosts-every-single-other-person-we-interact-with-which-is-excellent-for-business-too… kind of way.

And you know what…

As tacky as it might sound to the super busy, high performing professional… the energy is met by the energy that’s brought. If you put some quality energy and thought into what you say… what you’ll be stunned to find… is that other people will bring some quality energy and thought into what they say as well.

The Difference Between “Better” and “Better Fit”

Published on October 2, 2024

Here’s a hard truth: Sometimes, you won’t be good enough.

Whether it’s for a person, a job, a sports team, etc… it just might be the case that there’s somebody out there who’s a better fit than you.

And I think that’s the correct phrasing that a lot of people mess up.

…It’s not that they’re better than you—that’s too all encompassing of a statement that ignores the fact that we are all each a very complex collection of strengths and weaknesses that make up something completely incomparable one person to the next.

…Did you catch that?

They’re not better than you—they’re a better fit than you.

…In that person’s eyes, in that very specific situation, under those very specific circumstances.

But, that’s okay because you’re a better fit than them in countless other ways.

The problem isn’t you. The problem is that you’re trying to fit your very specific puzzle piece into the wrong place on the board.

Don’t get it twisted: there’s a place for you.

But, the more time you spend trying to shove yourself into the wrong puzzle piece spot, the less time you’ll be able to spend exploring the countless other opportunities that you’ll get to align yourself with and grow into.

What Are Your Inputs Making You Believe?

Published on October 1, 2024

Seeing the number of subscribers go down on my email lists makes me want to write and publish less. Reading the comments from readers who resonated with what I wrote makes me want to write more.

Training with people who are arrogant and chronic complainers makes me want to train a whole lot less. Training with people who are humble and hard working makes me want to train a whole lot more.

Working with people who are lazy and who have other people do most of their work for them makes me want to help that person a bunch less. Working with people who are focused and who take initiative to get more than their fair share done makes me want to help them a bunch more.

If you’re feeling some kind of way about your work, training, creative processes, etc—check your inputs. When you focus too much on the ones that upset, frustrate, and pain you—it’s no wonder you’re feeling badly about the process as a whole.

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