Emotional turbulence doesn’t usually come about all at once. It’s usually the result of an ongoing accumulation of emotional messages that get overlooked and ignored until they pile into an overwhelming mountain of unread messages—which, then, triggers inner turbulence.
…It happens when we say we don’t have time, we’re too busy, or when we keep ourselves blindly distracted. Yet, we have time to incessantly check email and swipe every notification that pops up on our phone?
Maybe, if we took some of that incessant energy that’s pointed towards “productivity” and “networking” and used it to read even just a small portion of the emotional messaging our body sends us… we’d be a helluva lot less turbulent and anxious.
And, heck, we’d probably be a helluva lot more productive and present for proper networking, too.
What letter grade would you give yourself for actually doing the things you say you’re going to do? A-? B? …F?
If you are failing in follow through—in matching your actions to your words—everything in your life will be affected.
Fix this by making smaller promises/ announcements/ goals and remembering not to agree to things you don’t seriously think you’ll be able to do.
Refocus your efforts from trying to capture HUGE word-to-action matchings and start accumulating mountains of small matchings instead. For example, instead of telling yourself that you’re going to lose 30 pounds in 30 days!—tell yourself that you’re going to show up to the gym for 15 of the next 30 days.
The house of trust is built one brick at a time.
The wrecking ball of mistrust slams against those bricks every time you don’t follow through on your word.
Build patiently. Commit consciously. Do everything you can to NOT slam that wrecking ball into your walls. It’s much harder to build than it is to destroy. And until we build a house of trust with ourselves, we won’t have a roof we can house our best lives in.
Exercising regularly is one of the hardest things in the world for some people.
Which is why it’s SO important to not make it any harder than it needs to be.
I will be the first to admit that I take an easy route that ends with me under the bar each day:
…And THEN I’ll get my workout started.
Even after 20 years of working out religiously, the workouts themselves haven’t gotten any easier—I’ve just gotten better at showing up and tricking myself into doing the work.
I learned long ago that wake-up -> bar isn’t the path that works for me. The resistance (misery) eventually becomes too much and leads me to stray from the path. I’m the type that needs to ease myself in. This is what keeps me on the path.
Hard, misery-inducing workouts coupled with misery-inducing steps leading up to the workouts are glorified in today’s world and it’s no wonder regular exercise is so damn hard for so many.
Don’t feel pressured to go this route.
While it’s undoubtedly true that massive action will lead to massive results… it’s the consistent action that’ll lead to the life-changing results.
Do our dream people find us… or do we find them?
…Both.
I think the point is to be open to the infinite possibilities of the world and to constantly expose ourselves to others while simultaneously engaging with those who curiously cross our paths—both directly and subtly.
Waiting to be found isn’t a good strategy.
And neither is desperately searching.
Somewhere in the middle though? …I think is where the real magic of connection happens.
“Sleep is temporary. Grades are forever.”
Was said to me in a joking way the other day. Jokes aside, this is a truth that far too many people believe to their core. And let me be the first to say that this couldn’t be more backwards.
It’s the sleep that leads to a better forever and this twisted emphasis on grades that couldn’t be more temporary.
P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.