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Month: November 2022

Self-Care or Distraction?

Published on November 2, 2022
  • Self-care is more than spa days.
  • Self-care is more than bubble baths.
  • Self-care is more than scented candles, tea, and fuzzy blankets.

There’s nothing wrong with the above… after all, they each can certainly put you into a better state of mind (so you can better address what’s wrong).

The problem, of course, is that none of the above deals with what’s wrong.

Real self-care happens when you actually confront and address what’s wrong. And if what follows spa days, bubble baths, and fuzzy blankets entails addressing what’s wrong—then by all means.

But, don’t exclusively reserve “self-care time” with the above and ignore the things that are making you feel like you need “self-care time.” Because then you’re just fooling yourself into engaging in another distraction that’s no better than Netflix, night’s out, and Tik Tok.

P.s. These daily posts are a form of self-care for me. If they’ve helped you, you can buy me a coffee (or tea) here to support the ongoing effort. Thanks in advance :)

No Discipline Without Trust

Published on November 1, 2022

When boiled down, self-discipline is really a function of trust.

The most disciplined are the ones who make and keep the most promises to themselves and the least disciplined are the ones who make and break the most promises to themselves.

If you seriously want to become disciplined, then you need to prove it by taking yourself—the promises you make to yourself—more seriously.

If you’re already a notorious self-promise breaker… then become keenly aware of this and stop promising yourself more than you can deliver.

Just as under-promise, over deliver is a great strategy for a successful business, so too is it a great strategy for becoming self-disciplined. And marginally increasing the seriousness of your promises as trust (in yourself) is restored is how self-discipline is increased/built.

And take note: as is true with other relationships in life, trust is built slowly, but can be broken rapidly. So be patient, take “marginally” seriously, and build discipline as you would a brick wall—one brick (one promise) at a time.

P.s. I also published: 25 Lessons From 1,000 Days Of Daily Writing on Medium.