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Category: Priorities

Lifetime Xed

How many time commitments do you have that you don’t even realize you have?

  • The lines you’re forced to wait in
  • The long commutes
  • The time it takes to get ready

How might you creatively reclaim some of that time?

  • Do you have to wait in those lines? Or is there a way you can skip them altogether? i.e. Rather than buying coffee each morning, can you start making it from home?
  • Assuming you can’t opt out of the long commutes, is there a way you can improve how you spend that time? i.e. Long commutes are a perfect time to soak in audiobooks—which are great because they don’t always have to be nonfiction/ productive. They can be leisurely and entertainment oriented, too. Much better than yelling at stupid drivers.
  • Is there any way you can shorten the time it takes for you to get ready? i.e. Can you set clothes out the night before or get one step ahead of breakfast some how? Smooth starts are usually a byproduct of end-of-the-day preemptive thinking.

It might take you 10-15 minutes to thoroughly think through these ideas.

The benefit, of course, is that even if you can only manage to find a way to save 10-15 minutes throughout your entire day… you just LIFETIME Xed your investment.

In other words, if you hold true to this idea for 100 days—you just 100xed your invested time. If you hold true for 365 days—you just 365xed your invested time. And if you can keep it going for the rest of your life…?

That’s right—a lifetime xed investment.

Unbelievably worth it.

Picking Fights

The easiest fight to win is the one you don’t get into.

Some fights can’t be avoided, but many of them can be.

When you get better at picking your battles, you get better at winning your battles.

Not just because of fights avoided, but because of the energy that’s saved for the others.

When It’s Time To Leave Work

Remind yourself constantly:

  • My work will never be done.
  • My work will never be done.
  • My work will never be done.
  • My work will never be done.
  • My work will never be done.

And then leave work guilt-free because…

Well, do we need to repeat it again?

Hard Stops vs. Soft Stops

Time management trick: define whether each task of your day should have a “hard stop” or “soft stop.”

  • Hard stop: Non-negotiable end to a task. e.g. 11pm is a hard-stop because sleep is a top priority. I don’t allow myself to work at even 11:01pm.
  • Soft stop: Flexible end to a task. e.g. Usually, I write between 2pm – 3pm. But, if the writing is flowing smooth and I’m in the zone, I allow myself to ride that momentum until it ends.

The problem with getting these confused is that it mostly hurts your top priorities.

Top priority tasks should be treated as “soft stops,” but are often treated as “hard stops.” Things like sleep, family time, exercise, writing, reading, connecting with friends, etc.—you should be able to spend whatever amount of time feels right. But, either you force yourself to cut it short or you don’t have enough time to allot.

Which leads to the second confusion: treating tasks that should be “hard stops” as “soft stops.” Things like TV, video games, social media time, etc—you can easily end up spending entire days doing these types of things if you don’t take control. And when you don’t, that excessive time gets taken from—that’s right—your top priorities.

And it turns into a vicious cycle.

Not enough time to do what’s most important because you spent too much time doing what’s not. And because you have less time, you’re constantly playing catch up.

So, what’s the solution? Give what’s less important tighter “hard stops” and then you’ll finally get to enjoy “soft stops” while doing what’s more.

Important Big > Urgent Little

When you solve the big problems what you might find is that the little problems take care of themselves.

Like, when you solve sleep.

Suddenly, you won’t need to spend so much time thinking about snoozing, caffeine, being late, battling fatigue, managing grumpy moods, hiding bags under your eyes, etc.

Or, when you solve healthy habits.

Suddenly, you won’t spend so much of your day feeling like crap, thinking about your weight, battling your lazy mind, trying to hide your body, figuring out how to treat symptoms, considering fad diets, trying out trendy workouts, questioning your self-worth, etc.

Or, when you solve gratitude.

Suddenly, you won’t feel like you’re constantly in a state of lack; like you need to hustle for more money; like you need to beat the people you’re comparing yourself to; like you need to buy the latest and greatest; like happiness is forever on the other side of a fleeting finish line.

Don’t let the urgent little overtake the important big.

Protect Your Center

People are going to judge.

Let them.

People are going to gossip.

Let them.

People are going to hate.

Let them.

DON’T, however, let them steal your center.

For when you let them steal your center, you lose your clarity.

And it’s when you’ve lost your clarity that you begin judging, gossiping and hating all the same.

Self-Awareness

Without it, we could go years thinking we’re on track, only to realize we spend all that time moving in the wrong direction.

How to build self-awareness?

Well, let’s not complicate this—you simply have to spend time turning your awareness onto your self.

A good way to guide this practice is to work your way through some tough, meaningful questions. Some of which might include:

  • What are my most important priorities? Is how I’m spending my time reflective of what’s most/least important to me? Where am I spending too much/not enough time?
  • Am I enjoying the work that I’m doing? Or am I using work as a means to get to an end? How can I focus more on the means and less on the ends?
  • How can I simplify my life? How can I add more meaning to my life? How can I accelerate my personal growth? How can I remove desire and add presence?

A few minutes per day sure beats losing a few years in the wrong direction.